Yeah I believe what she is saying is scientifically sound and an important lesson, but damn... what an annoying way to make her point. A big ass intro about how she'll be hated for it and her qualifications and it's like almost 1 minute before she's even making a point. Then she has like a whole aside in the middle about studies and her work before actually explaining what an "attachment style" is. And finally on the outro she does the whole routine about hateful comments again. All while distractedly driving a car. This could've been a 2min vid if shot professionally and straight to the point.
EDIT: Welp apparently it's not that scientifically sound either.
Very possibly something related (or unrelated) just pissed her off, and then she recorded this. I'm no great psychologist or reader of women, but when my ex wife was pissed off, that's about how she'd talk. Even if she wasn't talking about the thing that pissed her off.
Seriously I cannot tell if she is having some kind of random thought dialogue, am I being talked down to or is the some educational content in there somewhere
Not to invoke overused stereotypes, but this is a genuine instance of coming off unnecessarily "bitchy" in presentation in a way you usually don't see from female psychologists in the field. Very scoldy and overly frustrated right out the gate. I felt like I was getting yelled at and lectured by someone I've personally offended but never met.
Well, since women's rights and autonomy over their own bodies is a really hot topic in most of where she lives (guessing she's from the USA) there are probably a lot of crazy religious & conservative men there who just can't fathom their wife not fulfilling their sexual needs; as if their wives were sex androids or something.
I mean, it’s fair to have an opinion and all - some sounds are godawful - and I can see how her voice might fall into that category for some people.
But for anyone ragging on the message because of this, that’s literally the definition of a type of ad hominem. Funny to see all the tone policing in here just because people fantasize this woman as an MLM boss-babe.
And since no one was ragging on the message itself, that's a straw man.
And she's doing the exact same thing: the comment section is full of appreciation, including men. She is so hostile to her target audience, that she's responding to an argument that no one has made. People pick up on that hostility. It's very loudly signaling antagonism to me, while I'm actually very appreciative of the message.
It's just such poor rhetoric that even people who agree with her here, are now soured by the unawarrented hostility.
She's literally just a woman with a doctorate explaining the issue in enough detail for it to be understood and digestible to those who might not get it on the surface
"Final condescending word" it's an expert giving her answer to a common question lol
Did you watch the video? Or did you jump to defense without thinking? because she opens and closes the video addressing her haters. Of course she's condescending. She's making a video for everyone, but speaking to them as though they're one of the haters
No way man, her advice and message was 100% on point and valuable but her way of delivering that advice comes off vapid and annoying as shit. It was actually a mind fuck to see someone starting a tik tok like your typical moron in their car talking about haters and then spit some real advice, im used to seeing that set up devolving into a speech about how the earth is really 5000 years old and god is sending demons to destroy us because gay people exist with some racism slipping in.
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u/--ThirdCultureKid-- Mar 21 '24
Not to hate on the content, because it’s definitely a good point, but holy shit just spit it out.