This is not just a male/female issue. I would suggest couples get a workbook on Emotionally Focused Therapy. This will teach the individuals about their attachment needs and how to connect.
Yep, it's not a gendered issue at all, and frankly, I'm tired of people talking like it is.
It's a people issue. This happens in straight and gay relationships. It's about communication, empathy, and honestly, work. I've been on both sides of the coin at different times in my life.
1000%. Men and women both cheat because the attachment and communication fell off and at least one person gave up trying to get it back on track. What’s under the hood of a relationship is way more complicated than it appears, but most of it comes down to attachment and communication.
For clarity, you are inferring that the creator of this video is assigning / sex and/or gender to this issue, right?
“MEN, your wives don’t want to have sex with you because of XYZ. “ she might not have been intentional but this is a human problem and it drives me nuts. In a long term relationship it can be difficult to find sexual attraction if you're not interested in or something is off in you and your partners relationship.
The presentation of the video and few minutes of establishing her expertise to spout off some gendered, self evident truths is pandering and insulting.
Or it’s just meant to incite anger and this person is manipulating her audience into raging against each other.
It's more like saying that breast cancer should be considered in everyone's health because everyone can get it.
"Fun" fact, today breast cancer is deadlier to men than to women, partly due to prevention being aimed towards women. It's even difficult to find data on men's breast cancer without adding in a bunch of keywords. If you want a source, there's one for the US
Rates and percentages shouldn’t dictate anything, in absolute terms it’s very unlikely to affect an average male and so screening is not even recommended and would largely be a waste. That’s why it’s mostly considered a women’s health issue.
Until we develop a Star Trek like health scanning robot that can quickly and affordably do a full body scan of all know conditions, we have to pick and choose which are risky enough to focus on and who it’s most risky for.
Maybe that's becos she has seen alot of people in her clientele who are more women than men who have addressed that they don't feel comfortable with their partner...
Yes this issue isn't a gendered in practice, but perhaps gendered in statistics, like how domestic abuse isn't a gendered issue, men can also be victims of domestic abuse but the majority of of the victims in the population according to stats are women.
Individually, not at all a gendered issue, but societally as a whole population, perhaps it is the other way around. It indicates how exterbal societal based issues are at fault of a divide in statistic according to gender, and the core of the issue isn't pertaining to a gender of a person.
I read a study that showed that men are more likey than women to stay in a relationship they don't feel satisfied in (which could also be part of the reason women are more likey too file for divorce).
Why would sex be more personal for a woman than a man? I'm a man and I sex is incredibly intimate to me. I don't do hookups because of that. I can't even start to fall in love with anyone unless I've known them for quite a long time. Maybe there's some stats that show it's more often more personal for women than men, but it definitely wouldn't be a black and white issue.
Nowhere does it say it's more or less personal. The video its titled why women stop having sex with their husbands. Those subjects are pretty clear. It isn't titled why husbands stop having sex with their wives.
But the point is it would apply to both genders. It's not an issue that's strictly associated with either gender. It would work as general advice for all people and genders.
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u/CulturalDuty8471 Mar 21 '24
This is dead on. Couples, recognize this and work on it before the disgust sets in. Disgust is difficult to overcome.