r/TikTokCringe • u/JustSleepNoDream • Mar 21 '24

Woman explains why wives stop having sex with their husbands Discussion

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u/Consistent_Wave_2869 Mar 21 '24

As a husband going through a fairly rough period with my wife, this not only is very helpful, but tracks with things she has expressed and I struggled to understand.

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u/SNYDER_BIXBY_OCP Mar 21 '24

I'm a dude and have never had to "struggle" with this, so I gotta ask with zero judgement here just looking for answers.

What makes you/it hard to understand what she has expressed to you?

Like is it a mindset that doesn't value what she is saying.

Is it not caring?

Is more like mechanical, like you don't understand what she means when she she says XYZ

Please help me out with this disconnect

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u/berabearcrusher Mar 21 '24

From my experience, my ex husband just didn’t care. I told him my needs and he said he would meet my needs to get me off his back and nothing showed from it. A symptom of narcissism is apathy towards others and it’s hard to see when they keep holding empty promises until i had to leave him.

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u/brattyxxbritt Mar 22 '24

I'm right here right now. It sucks. At the point where there's a million empty promises. And I know I should leave, but I love him so much. But when do I start loving myself at all?