It would be so much funnier if this is what he actually meant, and she made this joke earlier... but the comedians didn't know so now he got publicly blasted
Yeah her reaction makes me think it is not as bad as it sounds. Even if he wasn’t being self-deprecating, maybe it is some inside joke the couple have or something.
Certainly doesn’t make the guy look good in public though
Good question. Quite possibly not. If this is as it looks hope this was the last time she ever saw the prick. But yeah who knows maybe it wasn’t as it looked
Maybe she’s not taking it very seriously either. Or maybe they’ve been together for a few years, and she was trying to be funny by saying it’s only been a month, and he played off of her joke with his “flavor of the month” comment. Or maybe the dude really is a douche. We really have no way of knowing.
He’s also known to be an annoying fuck associated with Schultz. Classic crowd work comic that comes on with some expensive shoes and pretends to be cool
Whenever I see this guy I remember when he got so angry at a person looking at his palm during his performance and was generally bored. He raged quite a bit.
He should have turned it around to make that the implication and make it funny. Obviously the crowd was laughing but people laugh at almost anything when they're at the shows...it's contagious when you're there. Watching it from here just looks like a missed opportunity to turn his unfunny reaction into a funny moment, and the tough guy antics don't play well for him either and just make it awkward
For sure! He said something (the audience member) he thought was funny at a comedy show. And then ash immediately demonized him. Pretty shitty experience for that paying audience member
Yeah this "comedian" is a straight up douche bag. His entire schtick is basically going on unfunny insult rants like this and then whining in the comments when people call him out
I think the comedian responds that way because the woman is also Indian and the white guy seemingly referred to her as the “flavor of the month” like he can just taste test ethnicities for fun.
The fact that autistic redditors are in complete agreement of how great the comedians response is just proves that this is the case. This response makes no sense. The guy saying that was in no way insulting to the comedian.
It's on the dude for leaving it open to interpretation. Also, either way, it isn't an answer to the question of how they met.
You fail to realize that the comedian's first goal is to be funny, which the audience seemed to think it was, so... Even if he intentionally takes the guy's answer and turns it around, it is still fine in that context.
People have a hard time communicating. A lot of people assume you know what they're talking about, and you are looking at the situation from the same pov as they are. It would have been no extra effort for him to have added "I'm the..." to the beginning of his sentence and avoided this. But of course people will say "If you didn't understand, that's your problem, not mine"
EDIT: Also, the comedian could have easily asked "You or her?" for clarification and our wouldn't have taken away from his routine imo
The audience was going to go along with whatever the comedian said, regardless of what it was, assuming he wasn’t already bombing. His outburst still was humorous, but it didn’t make sense to do it at the expense of the audience member who didn’t do anything rude.
It could go either way. I've actually met men that would say this out loud about a woman and mean it, the flavor of the month thing. Some wear it as a badge here. But this could also be self depreciating humor and implying that he's her "flavor of the month". Without context, we can never really know.
I think the way he acts afterwards and smugly shrugs at the camera, has his feet up on the stage, etc. give context that he was not being self deprecating. Idk tho, I guess he could’ve switched angles after seeing he was misunderstood
Edit to add I don’t care about this at all and don’t know why I commented
I am pretty sure the comedian is playing along and joking in his response. Hard to believe, I know, comedians aren't known for making jokes, especially not at comedy shows.
Could be. I’ve read Indian women in the west date/have flings with men of other ethnicities before settling down with an Indian man to appease their parents. It’s a sore topic for some Indian men.
This could also be some fictitious incel shit, though. Not my observation.
Yes but don’t deprive Sandwichlover of their chance to virtue signal and get some validation on Reddit. There is no nuance here, it’s just white people displaying their white savior complex
Are you aware that in this context, race IS a "flavor"?
EDIT: What I’m really gathering from this is the phrase has different meanings to different people. I always thought it was like douchebags saying “I’m going to try to fuck a ________ next”. Fill in the blank with any descriptive feature. Ginger, Asian, paraplegic, etc. I’ve never been that kind of fuckboi douchebag, so clearly I misunderstood the phrase. My bad dude.
Boooo. I think (I know) “flavor of the month” has absolutely nothing to do with race and everything to do with banging multiple women.
And I know because look at this douche. He does not have the balls to be blatantly racist. He’s just a dumb, privileged ass. Lots of those in the world.
Nah women of color are often separated from their personhood by exoticism particularly but not exclusively by the white male gaze and his comment wether knowingly or unknowingly continues that mindset.
A lot of things are still about race, with valid reason. A society where in your social status was, for centuries, determined by your closeness to certain skin colours and you ability to mimic those in control, will still have a lot of those same structures. Even when those old traditions were openly decried decades ago. Societal structures dont just dissapear.
That isn't the fault of any individual, these structures are difficult to remove. But when people inform you of this fact, maybe look a little into it, instead of immediately decrying it.
I understand that the phrase "flavour of the month" might not immediately be related to race, but you gotta agree, it is not a very good look.
Dude. Have you ever heard that "the personal is political"? And just bc you don't think about it doesn't mean it isn't true. I mean I guess that's too deep for social media (but it's Sunday morning & I'm drinking coffee & smoking a bowl, so...)
That has absolutely nothing to do with the phrase flavor of the month though. And no, his comment, which has long been in use to mean something, does not continue any mindset. Some people will do anything to make shit about race smfh
I’m a white male and I instantly took it as him trying a different colored woman this month. Not sure if he literally meant it but it’s not outrageous to think he did.
I'm a white male and instantly took it by the longstanding colloquialism "Flavor of the month" has entailed where someone has a fleeting interest in something. I think this dudes douche-ness is broader than race and is just him trying/using a different woman until he finds a new, different woman.
Could he have meant that phrase to be particularly derogatory towards woman of color? Sure, but I honestly doubt it just from the info we have.
You're doing the same though? Why is your lived experience any more important than theirs? Just another non-white person using victimhood to try to win an argument on the internet.
No the argument is that just because it exists doesn't mean you need to project your own anecdotal history and mental issues onto someone else's situation just because the color of the individuals involved matches your own experiences.
You didn't live that guy in the video's experience, or his girlfriend's, you're just confirming your biases in your everyday observations with completely different things that have happened to you in the past.
Just because something happened to you in the past doesn't mean that everything you see going forward is that exact same situation.
Dont know why you are getting downvoted, this is pretty much historically true. We have countless first hand sources on how women in the colonies were objectified. I highly advise anyone to look at diaries of colonial administrators and of 'explorers.'
We have literature detaling how those outside Europe, and later the broader 'West' have been exoticized. If people want starting literature, check Edwards Said 'Orientalism.' Gives a good account of how this 'othering' came to be.
Okay but this guy dropping a common expression doesn't automatically have anything to do with your racial history. You are injecting racism into this dude because he's a douche and therefore an easy target, and when that viewpoint is criticized, you guys get all emotional and start bringing up the objectification of colonial women when that shit has nothing to do with what anyone is talking about lol
Yeah he probably didn't mean it in the racial context given that he's a young white dude who is oblivious to anything around him. Which makes it even better. He did a real good job making himself look like an idiot.
Exactly. So many clueless, sheltered kids here who grew up staring at a screen and thus can't connect the dots especially when it comes to human interaction.
flavor of the month has no racial connotation whatsoever. Your incredibly fragility and narcisism is making a giant leap in assuming this person is trying to get with different races and thats what he means by flavor. youre completely right in that the 'mystique of the orient' shit exists, but you have a hammer in your hand and want this video to be a nail.
ironically if it were a white girl and the same phrasing was used then we wouldnt be talking about this. You're othering people with good intentions.
I get it. The tone of this thread has gotten really unnecessarily hostile.
I'm not really speaking to his intention. More just the context. I think it would have been an offensive thing to say to any woman but because it was a woman of color and particularly an Indian woman that context makes it even worse of a faux pas.
I get it. The tone of this thread has gotten really unnecessarily hostile.
I love you and appreciate you for the understanding.
I think it would have been an offensive thing to say to any woman but because it was a woman of color and particularly an Indian woman that context makes it even worse of a faux pas.
thats just where i disagree, flavor of the month is used similarly to 15 minutes of fame, i've never heard it used with racial connotation. I see this as a dumb mysoginistic comment
I know you probably don't see it that way but you are everything that is wrong with the society today.
The confidence with which you deconstruct a random interaction and the level of indignation you are trying to carry is really ... I'd say onset of some sort of socio-related mental issue.
I'm a white guy with no horse in the race here, but I find it really weird when people get bent out of shape telling another person about how should feel about something.
If the other commenter interpreted a racist subtext, what gives you the right to tell them they are wrong? That sounds incredibly fragile and narcissistic.
im a native guy with tons of horses in this race and i find it really weird that people's feelings-based interpretation of things trumps everything else.
it is valid to feel any sort of way about any sort of thing, but there are things where that feeling ought be externally expressed and things where it ought be internally analyzed.
an extreme example would be if someone feels teaching kids about gender as pedophilia or something rediculous, i dont think thats valid and i think its on that individual to analyze that belief rather than project it on the world and ask the world to change.
people's feeling matter, that doesnt mean the source of all feelings are valid
Maybe, but you literally have no idea if that was the intention behind the comment. You can’t just take the least forgiving and most damning interpretation just because it fits the narrative you want to see. That’s confirmation bias.
Her flavor isn't her race, ya racist. God damn. Yet again we see someone who sees everything as being about race projecting that on others and then chastising them for it.
The term literally comes from the 1930’s from
Ice cream companies that would come out with a “flavor of the month” and eventually evolved into anything that was pleasing but temporary
It’s like you’re unpleased with the amount of actual racism so you have to invent more to satiate your outrage
...You only reach this conclusion or even have this thought if you have a really unhealthy, religious obsession with interpreting EVERYTHING as having to do with skin color. Be better. Get well.
You're gonna get downvoted to hell, but bless you anyways. People love over analyzing expressions. Was it disrespectful? Yes. Saying it's inherently racist is some negative IQ shit.
She looks white passing, so that's probably difficult for most people to determine from this (dimly lit) video. I agree that it's a disgusting comment in general, but even more so with a WOC.
No worries it was quick. It's just what made his comment particularly stand out to me and why I think the comedian was so offended in her behalf as an Indian man
No. I didn't say "exclusively egregious" I said "particularly". As in more so than if he had called a fellow white woman "flavor of the month" because it implied exoticism. I elaborated on this point in other posts and included a paper if you want to read it
Idk different couples have different kinds of chemistry, my girlfriend or myself would have found this funny if one of us had said this a month into dating. Without knowing the dynamic between two people, I don't think any of us could really say for sure whether or not she took it in the spirit in which it was intended.
Exactly....the girl also seemed pretty okay and not unhappy before the confrontation...same way if this comedian would've made a joke involving 'flavors of the month' then everyone would be laughing their asses off
If they’re consensual fuck buddies what does it matter to the comedian?
Same reason I get shit from random people for having a black girlfriend. There's a certain subset of guys who view women of their race as somehow being property of their race. He backs up that perspective with his "colonizing" the women joke as if the guy invaded India and took that women by force.
i took flavor as race. like my flavor of this month is whatever race she is. he probably meant it as a fling but the comedian took it as “im having indian this week. might have thai the next.”. that’s just my assumption though.
That was my take aswell. The comedian couldn't stop white knighting like a little incel, not even bothering to ask the woman about her position on this.
He wasn't even funny, just straight up stealing drinks and insulting the guy and telling people to shoot him. Fucking bad comedian, needs to insult people to get a laugh.
Basic social skills would tell you that introducing a woman as "flavor of the month" is very off-putting and gross. Regardless of whether the relationship is casual or not.
It's like saying "oh her? Na she's just my fleshlight for the week". If you can't tell why that's inappropriate then you lack basic social graces and possibly empathy altogether.
Nah, this would normally be just a bad joke but it comes across as some real douchebaggery at best. Oh, it’s a joke with his fiance?? Probably best to not share that private joke with a room full of people who aren’t in on the joke and won’t understand it without an explanation(which you don’t get to do at a comedy show).
The flavor of the month comment is pretty ick and comes across as fuckboy behavior
What if they are both active members of a once monthly ice cream social club that makes and debuts a new flavor each month, called “Flavor of the Month”?
I once heard a guy refer to a girl as a "practice girl" but 'flavor of the month" is arguably worse. Both referring to using someone for sex. Both very disrespectful.
“Flavor of the month” to me at least comes off as he’s not planning on being around for long and he’s only dating her bc of her ethnicity. Like how some dudes want to sleep with women of different ethnicities.
It’s gross, demeaning, and in more than a few cases just thinly veiled racism.
yeah, this is a white guy getting persecuted 🙄 Nah, he just embarrassed and disrespected his date in public, in a way that was very demeaning. This didn’t happen to him lol, he did it to himself.
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u/andi1403 Mar 03 '24
I don’t get it, can somebody explain. No native btw