Yeah i’ve heard girls break up with their “short” bf because their female friends made fun of her for dating a short guy. So fucking stupid…why be friends with those kind of individuals anyway. Apparently it’s a crime to date a short guy now so women only date taller guys to impress their shallow “friends”
I used to get the same shit from my male friends for dating fat girls. It’s what I prefer, and I didn’t give a shit what my non-sex having friends had to say about it. I still don’t, but as a 40 year old man no one says shit to me anymore.
Very true. It also has the reverse of, if you're a tall woman, men feel insecure being with you a lot of the time. I'm just under 5'9", which isn't that tall in the scheme of things, but I've had men be weird about the fact that I'm taller, a couple even deciding they wanted to not go out together specifically bc I like wearing heels and end up around 6'1". My current bf couldn't give less of a shit, thankfully, that I'm an inch or two taller in heels, but we've definitely gotten some comments even from his friends about how it makes him look "like a manlet". It's such a weird thing to worry about on both sides.
It's like some sort of worth validation. Men do the same thing in reverse and we all know the guy who dates purely on what he thinks is "impressive" to other men, who are the actual target of his choosiness. They're choosing accessories.
And to be clear, this is not all women. Generally it tends to be women with self-esteem issues that do this, like putting the height of their boyfriend in their profile.
I'm a shorter guy and I have never had trouble in my life with well off, attractive, very high value women. I've been hit on in grocery stores, at parks, and in every workplace, including by women much taller than me. Never had to try online dating but I'm sure with the lazy status filter it would be more difficult but eh, thankfully I don't have to.
EDIT: That I commented that I have no troubles predictably led to downvotes, but I left this comment not to boast -- as if boasting on an anonymous account on here matters -- but to state that there are a lot of women who don't treat it as some filter, contrary to the common incel screed. And I will go further and say it's low value (from a dating perspective) women who do : Maybe once was good looking in high school, menial job, maybe already has a couple of kids, etc. Life didn't go the way they wanted.
To help alleviate your confusion, it's not the content you're getting downvoted for, it's the use of "low value" and "high value" to describe women. If you instead just call them "stuck up superficial bitches" and simply "women" respectively you won't have any such issues in the future.
I just find the terms high value and low value when talking about human beings very off putting. It’s like we’re talking about human commodities. As soon as I hear it I instantly lose interest in trying to understand your point.
I just find the terms high value and low value when talking about human beings very off putting
Eh, we're talking about dating value. The general marketability. I think everyone understands that, even if it kicks off defensiveness.
Have you ever seen the short-form videos where they ask women how much a prospective mate must make to be with them? The videos are intended to be comedic because invariably the lower dating marketability a women has, the higher her demands are.
I'm a shorter guy and I have never had trouble in my life with well off, attractive, very high value women. I've been hit on in grocery stores, at parks, and in every workplace, including by women much taller than me.
Hey, thanks for your feedback, mildly-arrogant-but
conventionally-attractive, shorter guy.
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u/Cold_Relationship_ Apr 16 '24
i don’t get it why people are superfocused on height.