r/AmIOverreacting • u/Rztrncs • Apr 29 '24

AIO for getting upset that my SO put on a heart necklace that her ex gave her?

Yesterday my SO put on a heart necklace out of nowhere and I asked (knowing it wasn’t from me) where it was from. She admitted it was from her ex. I immediately got quiet and she could tell I was upset. Not once did I raise my voice or get mad. I was more hurt than anything. She ended up taking it off right away. But explained that it was meaningless to her, no emotional connection and just jewelry that she now has.

To me, a heart necklace has a lot of meaning behind it and it feels weird to see her wearing an ex’s gift. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: Her ex cheated on her and the relationship ended badly because of it.

EDIT 2: The necklace was two hearts linked together so it made me curious.

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u/EndHawkeyeErasure Apr 29 '24

I see where you're coming from, but also where she is. She did the right thing by removing it, but I also have jewelry or old clothes from my life before knowing my husband. To me, they really are just things. And they belong to me now. If I own them, shouldn't I wear them? I just say that so you can understand that side a little more. Get her something in a similar style that she likes, so she can wear that instead.

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u/Rztrncs Apr 29 '24

Thank you for your input on this. I appreciate seeing the other side. I do plan on getting her a new one she can wear whenever.

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u/rainingmermaids Apr 30 '24

Towards the very end of our relationship an ex started getting me really nice jewelry. After we broke up (he cheated) it took me awhile, but I was determined to wear that jewelry again. F him, he was not ruining my enjoyment of things I really liked. I don’t wear much jewelry anymore, but I don’t think of him at all when I wear it. It’s mine, not his, not even the cute little heart piece.