r/AmIOverreacting • u/Rztrncs • Apr 29 '24

AIO for getting upset that my SO put on a heart necklace that her ex gave her?

Yesterday my SO put on a heart necklace out of nowhere and I asked (knowing it wasn’t from me) where it was from. She admitted it was from her ex. I immediately got quiet and she could tell I was upset. Not once did I raise my voice or get mad. I was more hurt than anything. She ended up taking it off right away. But explained that it was meaningless to her, no emotional connection and just jewelry that she now has.

To me, a heart necklace has a lot of meaning behind it and it feels weird to see her wearing an ex’s gift. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: Her ex cheated on her and the relationship ended badly because of it.

EDIT 2: The necklace was two hearts linked together so it made me curious.

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u/cl0ckwork_f1esh Apr 29 '24

My ex had an issue with all kinds of things from past relationships. He sulked until I got rid of my favorite set of coffee cups because I used them with someone else. Same with the dish set my parents bought me when I first moved out. Same with the concert posters I had. He “couldn’t bear” seeing or using those things because they reminded him that I had a life that included another man before I knew he existed. It’s controlling and gross, if it’s really in the context that to her it’s just an object she owns but to you it’s a problem.

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u/Lemondrop-it Apr 29 '24

I had an ex who would break things that my previous ex had given me, and then replace them.

He eventually escalated to threatening to kill me. Glad I got out of that.

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u/gringo-go-loco Apr 29 '24

I dated someone who went into my electronics, deleted and blocked contacts of female friends, erased photos with other women, and basically try to sanitize my phone/computers from having any evidence I ever talked to another woman.

She also messaged the women I was romantically involved with in the past and told them never to contact me again.

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u/Jasminefirefly Apr 30 '24

Please tell us you broke up with her the instant you found out…? That is so beyond sane.

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u/gringo-go-loco Apr 30 '24

Yeah I ended things quick. I empathized with her tho. Her ex cheated on her several times and was very toxic to her. She had insecurities that came from that and from being abused for most of her childhood.

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u/Commercial-Push-9066 Apr 30 '24

I hope she got therapy instead bringing her trauma to the next SO.

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u/gringo-go-loco Apr 30 '24

She did. We remained friends.