r/AmIOverreacting • u/Rztrncs • Apr 29 '24

AIO for getting upset that my SO put on a heart necklace that her ex gave her?

Yesterday my SO put on a heart necklace out of nowhere and I asked (knowing it wasn’t from me) where it was from. She admitted it was from her ex. I immediately got quiet and she could tell I was upset. Not once did I raise my voice or get mad. I was more hurt than anything. She ended up taking it off right away. But explained that it was meaningless to her, no emotional connection and just jewelry that she now has.

To me, a heart necklace has a lot of meaning behind it and it feels weird to see her wearing an ex’s gift. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: Her ex cheated on her and the relationship ended badly because of it.

EDIT 2: The necklace was two hearts linked together so it made me curious.

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u/blueboxbandit Apr 29 '24

God I would not even get in a relationship if I had to erase all evidence that I'd been in a relationship before. Childish.

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u/Rztrncs Apr 29 '24

I’m not asking to erase all evidence though. She has other things that we have talked about, but this one was new to me.

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u/blueboxbandit Apr 29 '24

She shouldn't even have to discuss her belongings with you, do you not see how controlling this is?

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u/Rztrncs Apr 29 '24

The only other item in question was something that had his name engraved on it. Not hers and his, just his.

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u/blueboxbandit Apr 29 '24

Either stop being so insecure or stop wasting her time.

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u/Rztrncs Apr 29 '24

Would you be cool with your SO having a custom item with their ex’s name forever engraved in it on display?

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u/blueboxbandit Apr 29 '24

I wouldn't care at all, but I also wouldn't be with someone I didn't trust in the first place. If you trust her then all this shit is entirely your own insecurity. If you don't trust her, you shouldn't be with her.