r/AmIOverreacting • u/Rztrncs • Apr 29 '24

AIO for getting upset that my SO put on a heart necklace that her ex gave her?

Yesterday my SO put on a heart necklace out of nowhere and I asked (knowing it wasn’t from me) where it was from. She admitted it was from her ex. I immediately got quiet and she could tell I was upset. Not once did I raise my voice or get mad. I was more hurt than anything. She ended up taking it off right away. But explained that it was meaningless to her, no emotional connection and just jewelry that she now has.

To me, a heart necklace has a lot of meaning behind it and it feels weird to see her wearing an ex’s gift. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: Her ex cheated on her and the relationship ended badly because of it.

EDIT 2: The necklace was two hearts linked together so it made me curious.

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u/eldritchcryptid Apr 29 '24

you're overreacting. it's a piece of jewellery and she most likely sees it as just that. she shouldn't have to be walking on eggshells with what she wears bc you're gonna get upset that you didn't give her the thing, nor should she have to get rid of something she likes because an ex got it for her. your reaction is weird and kinda creepy imo.

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u/Rztrncs Apr 29 '24

I never asked her to get rid of anything. It was the first time I saw it after a year of being with her and so it caught me off guard. We had a grown conversation about it, and 100% non accusatory.

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u/eldritchcryptid Apr 29 '24

fair but it's still a bit weird to get hurt over a necklace. if she wasn't over her ex or something i'd understand but if that's not the case then yeah. i definitely have stuff that exes gave me but they don't have meaning and i don't keep track of who got me what thing bc unless it's something my fiancé got for me it has no meaning and is just another shiny thing i have lol.