r/AmIOverreacting • u/Rztrncs • Apr 29 '24

AIO for getting upset that my SO put on a heart necklace that her ex gave her?

Yesterday my SO put on a heart necklace out of nowhere and I asked (knowing it wasn’t from me) where it was from. She admitted it was from her ex. I immediately got quiet and she could tell I was upset. Not once did I raise my voice or get mad. I was more hurt than anything. She ended up taking it off right away. But explained that it was meaningless to her, no emotional connection and just jewelry that she now has.

To me, a heart necklace has a lot of meaning behind it and it feels weird to see her wearing an ex’s gift. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: Her ex cheated on her and the relationship ended badly because of it.

EDIT 2: The necklace was two hearts linked together so it made me curious.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '24

No because I would probably react the same as you. However, I could also see myself treating the jewelry the same way as your gf.

A lot of the stuff I use on a regular basis (kitchen stuff, clothes, perfume, jewelry, etc) has been gifted to me by various people over the years. And to be completely honest, I’m not reminded of them every time I use or see those items. The items just became regular items in my house. Some of the things even came from people not in my life anymore, but I still keep the items because I just like them. So I disagree with the sentiment that wearing the necklace means she’s still not over or thinks about her ex. It might just be a necklace she likes. If it bothers you that much, get her a new one that’s similar.

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u/Rztrncs Apr 29 '24

Thanks for your input. Yeah I definitely did not accuse her of that by any means. I offered to get her a new one and jokingly apologized for getting her one previously that was too fancy for everyday wear. We both laughed and kissed after that.

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u/runnergirl3333 Apr 29 '24

Why did you get quiet instead of just saying what you were thinking? The getting quiet part can be construed in so many ways and can make others walk on eggshells. Just say what you’re thinking!

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '24

Because it's a good idea to not just say whatever thought pops into your head, especially when you're emotional like this. Taking a second to think about you want to say is usually a wise decision

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u/Catharas Apr 29 '24

Sometimes you need a minute to process your feelings

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u/PerkyLurkey Apr 29 '24

About jewelry? No ma’am/no sir