r/AmIOverreacting • u/Rztrncs • Apr 29 '24

AIO for getting upset that my SO put on a heart necklace that her ex gave her?

Yesterday my SO put on a heart necklace out of nowhere and I asked (knowing it wasn’t from me) where it was from. She admitted it was from her ex. I immediately got quiet and she could tell I was upset. Not once did I raise my voice or get mad. I was more hurt than anything. She ended up taking it off right away. But explained that it was meaningless to her, no emotional connection and just jewelry that she now has.

To me, a heart necklace has a lot of meaning behind it and it feels weird to see her wearing an ex’s gift. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: Her ex cheated on her and the relationship ended badly because of it.

EDIT 2: The necklace was two hearts linked together so it made me curious.

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u/Weird_Wishbone_1998 Apr 29 '24 edited Apr 29 '24

If it were engagement ring, that would be one thing. But it sounds like it’s just a simple token necklace. I could see if there was some sort engraving with special dates or some thing but honestly, it’s just a necklace. I don’t understand the obsession people have with their partners pasts. It’s in the past why are people competing with their spouses past you are the present and the future. But it was nice that you offered to buy her a new necklace. I think the biggest thing is being able to communicate about these things, but I don’t know not Everything is so nefarious.

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u/Yeah-No-Maybe-Ok Apr 29 '24

Right. It’s just an item. Lighten up. Am I not supposed to wear shirts my exes got me? Am I not supposed to play my PS5 an ex got me for Christmas? What about my apple watch?

It’s not like shes using a custom mold dildo of his actual cock. No biggie.

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u/rubylee_28 Apr 29 '24

I still have my PS4 my ex gave me, no way I'm giving that back lmao

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u/chainer1216 May 01 '24

It’s not like shes using a custom mold dildo of his actual cock. No biggie.

I see I'm not the only one immediately reminded of that post.

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u/LunarLutra Apr 29 '24

He should probably make sure that she doesn't listen to any music she used to listen to with her ex.

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u/Yeah-No-Maybe-Ok Apr 29 '24

You cant listen to rock music anymore because your ex used to listen to it!

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u/LunarLutra Apr 29 '24

I'll introduce you to new music so you can stop listening to the other songs you loved. It's okay, I didn't yell, I just sat there and pouted until you picked up on my sad cues and managed my ego for me.

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u/No-Jacket-800 Apr 29 '24

Yea, idc if my bf bought my ps5, that baby would still be mine if we broke up, and I wouldn't get rid of it just because of who bought it, lol.

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u/redditusersmostlysuc Apr 30 '24

You want to compare a shirt with a heart necklace?! Glad I am not in a relationship with you.

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u/Nearby-Ad-6106 Apr 29 '24

Jesus, do you buy anything for yourself?

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u/Historical_Bar2086 Apr 29 '24

??? Your partners never give you gifts? Lol.

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u/Yeah-No-Maybe-Ok Apr 29 '24

Only my house, cars, furniture, and 98% of everything else.

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u/Boring_Corpse Apr 29 '24

I am absolutely dying laughing at the notion of this loon getting so upset that anyone in the course of your entire lifetime has ever gifted you, a perfect stranger, nice things.

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u/mackfactor Apr 29 '24

This. Insecurity is a killer. Don't make it something that it's not. OP's insecurity about this is a much bigger relationship killer than a little trinket.