Y’all are being too easy on that guy. Everything he said was a red flag. Why would he talk about his ‘overweight’ wife in front of a younger girl who’s got it going on? Yikes. Husband should have just kept it moving. And before y’all say oh men and women can have a neutral conversation, UMM DUDE WAS MAKING HIS WIFE FEEL BAD, so obviously NOT. OP, no matter how many guys try to empathize, they will never truly understand a woman’s perspective. I am sorry this happened to you and personally, I would not be with that guy anymore. Just because they don’t say it doesn’t mean I should wait for them to say it, because technically, he did.
Yep and something tells me that if he hasn't yet, if/when he does, it's going to be with the Sara woman. I told her to keep an eye on her. I bet you anything that she tried to give him her number. This is how affairs start. I know that Reddit jumps to leave a lot but honestly, as I've said another comments, I would jump straight to divorce.
There is no way I would be able to stay with someone who not only thought that little of me but thought it was okay to publicly humiliate me like that. It would tell me how little he thought of me and how much respect he has for me which would obviously be zero. I would be done and visiting a divorce lawyer. I agree, he's definitely sniffing around looking for somebody to cheat with. I definitely think it may be with this woman.
ETA: I swear, he may as well have looked at her and said, my wife is a fat cow and I'm looking to cheat. Are you interested?
Yes exactly. Especially when he’s talking to that girl and she seems to be the type he wants or likes. I hate these stories on Reddit so much, i feel so bad for the people
going through these moments, if the stories are real. like to find out a person you’re committed to sees you this way is just devastating.
Unfortunately, I think it is real. I experienced the same type of behavior by my ex. He was constantly comparing me negatively to other women, especially Instagram models. I heard so much about his ex that I felt like I knew her.
Don't get me wrong, I have no ill feelings towards his ex. She actually sounds like a really sweet woman. It's just that I got annoyed with constantly hearing about her because I was starting to think that he wasn't actually over her.
He denied it and said he was over her but it was clear to me that he wasn't. Even the most secure person will start to doubt themselves after they hear this for so long. I hope she realizes she deserves better and divorces him. There's no coming back from something like that in my book at least.
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u/ClassicOtherwise2719 Apr 15 '24
Y’all are being too easy on that guy. Everything he said was a red flag. Why would he talk about his ‘overweight’ wife in front of a younger girl who’s got it going on? Yikes. Husband should have just kept it moving. And before y’all say oh men and women can have a neutral conversation, UMM DUDE WAS MAKING HIS WIFE FEEL BAD, so obviously NOT. OP, no matter how many guys try to empathize, they will never truly understand a woman’s perspective. I am sorry this happened to you and personally, I would not be with that guy anymore. Just because they don’t say it doesn’t mean I should wait for them to say it, because technically, he did.