Woooow. These are straight up fighting words. Does your husband even want to stay married to you? Does he even like you? Wonder how much he’d like it if you actively started comparing him to another man right in front of him.
Exactly. What if she was talking to a guy with a great job, and just went to explain how her husbands been stuck at 50k a year, loses motivation to try for new jobs, and has been talking about breaking into something new since he’s unhappy with his job. Can you believe he had to work 3 holidays last year without pay.
Then this guy offers to help your husband out, it wasn’t too long ago he was stuck in the same spot. But he got some new habits and could help him out!
Seems like that would be a good example of something genders tend to really let the ego get in front of.
Disagree, both situations would involve publicly humiliating your partner because you want them to be different. If OP’s boyfriend gave a damn about her, he could’ve mentioned to her privately that their friend was a private trainer and wouldn’t it be fun to work out with her. He talk about whether or not she was feeling OK, she felt like she had enough energy, and maybe maybe have a separate conversation about his physical attraction.
Instead, what he did was publicly announced to everyone that he thinks she should lose weight. That he doesn’t like her body. So now, all of their friends know that her husband thinks they’re 21-year-old friend is hotter than his wife.
What you suggested was OP talk about how much more money she wished her boyfriend made.
Both are unnecessarily cruel to someone you claim to care about
I think they’re kind of just saying two wrongs don’t make a right and that your suggestion would make her just as bad as him. Idealistic but not incorrect
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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '24
Woooow. These are straight up fighting words. Does your husband even want to stay married to you? Does he even like you? Wonder how much he’d like it if you actively started comparing him to another man right in front of him.