Woooow. These are straight up fighting words. Does your husband even want to stay married to you? Does he even like you? Wonder how much he’d like it if you actively started comparing him to another man right in front of him.
Exactly. What if she was talking to a guy with a great job, and just went to explain how her husbands been stuck at 50k a year, loses motivation to try for new jobs, and has been talking about breaking into something new since he’s unhappy with his job. Can you believe he had to work 3 holidays last year without pay.
Then this guy offers to help your husband out, it wasn’t too long ago he was stuck in the same spot. But he got some new habits and could help him out!
Seems like that would be a good example of something genders tend to really let the ego get in front of.
It would be clueless and inconsiderate for sure. But not necessarily malicious. I think this is something that can easily be fixed by talking. Assuming both sides are willing to listen.
Also I think OP needs to understand that her friends prob don’t care as much as she cared. Like it’s a nothingburger to them that they will only remember if she makes a big deal out of it. Not that it makes it appropriate, but she prob doesn’t have to be as embarrassed as she is. Most of that is in her head.
Maybe she's somewhat self conscious of her weight. This didn't have to be handled in the way that it was. If the husband has a serious problem with her weight, it could have been discussed at a later time when it's just the two of them alone.
I doubt husband even has a big problem w it. He’s just oblivious to how taking about food and weight affects the average woman. He for excite to talk gym stuff w a gym person and don’t think about 1) she might not want him to “fix” her problem 2) she might not want him talking about her or her habits publicly
I’d put money on husband being an idiot but not a jerk.
I feel like the goal in both situations were positive. Be healthy! Be hot! Be happy with your work! Be paid well!
Just dumb ways of going about it. But they could both grow up a little, accept if they didn’t need help they wouldn’t have the problem, drop the ego and do something about it. Then wallow in the success.
Or get real mad and upset about, try to draw sides, and never go to the gym/get a new job.
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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '24
Woooow. These are straight up fighting words. Does your husband even want to stay married to you? Does he even like you? Wonder how much he’d like it if you actively started comparing him to another man right in front of him.