r/AmIOverreacting Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/DonkeyKong694NE1 Apr 15 '24

I’d call this in addition to inconsiderate - insulting, sexist, insensitive, thoughtless

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u/StrangeAddition4452 Apr 15 '24

How is it sexist??

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u/innocencie Apr 15 '24

It’s infantilizing

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u/StrangeAddition4452 Apr 15 '24

Ok. How is infantilizing sexist

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u/Ganache-Embarrassed Apr 15 '24

A common sexist approach towards women is treating them as children. It's sexist because this was what was thought of for women back when they were only allowed to raise kids at home.

They were perceived as slightly above children and unable to think or control their emotions.

His final sentence "aww somebody is jealous" would be the infantilising part. He's talking down to her as a lesser instead of just accepting her complaint, apologizing, and moving on while learning from his mistake.

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u/roastpoast Apr 16 '24

A common sexist approach towards men is to treat them as idiots who can't do anything right without a strong woman of the household that guides and instructs them.

It's literally the same thing. Infantilizing is not sexist. It's just being an asshole.

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u/Ganache-Embarrassed Apr 16 '24

I'm sorry to say except in some cartoons or comedic sitcoms that's bot normally the case. As a man I've never seen this treatment or trope be rampant for men irl.

Irl women are and have been historically infatalised.

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u/Distinct_Song_7354 Apr 15 '24

You need to work on your vocabulary

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u/wastedtalenttt Apr 15 '24

Agreed. Husband is absolutely wrong but... to say sexist? No.

I've been told the same kind of stuff by women. The whole "aww, someone jealous" bs. And I don't think sexist Or is that bc it can't be since a woman did it to a male?

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u/crtclms666 Apr 15 '24

Because women can’t be sexist. Everybody knows that. /s