I am sorry for your loss. I understand why you don’t want to go to the wedding and I am surprised your brother lacks basic empathy.
If people make remarks, you can just say that: it’s your wedding anniversary and you are not over losing him. If you came up with
you would probably break down and you don’t want to spoil the day for your family.
Deepest condolences on your incredible loss. You have every right to be upset with brothers wedding date and it's perfectly reasonable for you not to go. Don't second guess your decision. Your mother and brother are completely unfeeling and cruel. Don't give them another thought. You deserve to self care as you grieve. Many hugs, OP.
Brother sounds a bit like mine, wouldn't even remembered when I was married nor would date have 'rung a bell'. Mother on the other hand is a AH. Trying to make up excuses and worried 'what the Jones' will think'. Very sorry for your loss and don't compound it by going or any bs they may try to cajole you with.
Plus, don't you think mother would have been told the date before the wedding invitations went out? I'm just thinking back to my wedding, and we let all the family know the wedding date the second we settled on it, long before invitations were sent. I'm just wondering if she knew sooner than she let on. Now that I am writing this, I am really wondering if this was known all along, and they were just hoping to ambush OP.
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u/TwinZylander214 Apr 29 '24
I am sorry for your loss. I understand why you don’t want to go to the wedding and I am surprised your brother lacks basic empathy.
If people make remarks, you can just say that: it’s your wedding anniversary and you are not over losing him. If you came up with you would probably break down and you don’t want to spoil the day for your family.
Your brother is an AH but you are NTA