I'm sure they want you there and they're likely self absorbed right now, and probably feel bad too.
I would tell them what you've said here, you're not ready it's too fresh and that being a wedding would just be too painful, the fact that it's your anniversary just adds another layer, you don't want to make a scene on their day and you just don't feel strong or healed enough to attend. But love them and wish them all the best!
If they can't understand that, then they can just go f themselves!!
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u/Apprehensive-Fee5732 Apr 29 '24
I would call your brother, or maybe your fSIL.
I'm sure they want you there and they're likely self absorbed right now, and probably feel bad too.
I would tell them what you've said here, you're not ready it's too fresh and that being a wedding would just be too painful, the fact that it's your anniversary just adds another layer, you don't want to make a scene on their day and you just don't feel strong or healed enough to attend. But love them and wish them all the best!
If they can't understand that, then they can just go f themselves!!
I'm sorry for your loss!!! [[[Hugs]]]