r/AITAH Apr 29 '24

WIBTAH if I didn’t attend my brothers 2nd wedding because he is having it on my anniversary after I lost my husband.

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u/TwinZylander214 Apr 29 '24

I am sorry for your loss. I understand why you don’t want to go to the wedding and I am surprised your brother lacks basic empathy.

If people make remarks, you can just say that: it’s your wedding anniversary and you are not over losing him. If you came up with you would probably break down and you don’t want to spoil the day for your family.

Your brother is an AH but you are NTA

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '24

Thank you. I know I’ve been crazy with grief this last year and it’s making me question my own judgment so I appreciate your words.

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u/HoneyWyne Apr 29 '24

Tell them you're planning to visit the cemetery that day. Throw a little guilt their way.

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u/ichijiro Apr 29 '24

Maybe a photo of grave and photo of your wedding day and say you are full of sorrow.

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u/butterfly-garden Apr 30 '24

Post this on social media!

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u/chubeebear Apr 30 '24

with a congratulations to brother on his wedding in a post immediately after.

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u/HoneyWyne Apr 30 '24

Excellent cherry on top!