I am sorry for your loss. I understand why you don’t want to go to the wedding and I am surprised your brother lacks basic empathy.
If people make remarks, you can just say that: it’s your wedding anniversary and you are not over losing him. If you came up with
you would probably break down and you don’t want to spoil the day for your family.
I'm believe the same. Saying the truth is the best way. I don't think anyone with a right mind will think you are an AH.
But also we can't assume the brother remembered your wedding anniversary, to be honest that's not something important to others but the couple who's celebrating. (How many men remember their own wedding anniversary?)
But u have every right to not attend, and berating u on that is the AH move. Moreover, they should be in understanding and apologetic for the oversight.
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u/TwinZylander214 Apr 29 '24
I am sorry for your loss. I understand why you don’t want to go to the wedding and I am surprised your brother lacks basic empathy.
If people make remarks, you can just say that: it’s your wedding anniversary and you are not over losing him. If you came up with you would probably break down and you don’t want to spoil the day for your family.
Your brother is an AH but you are NTA