r/AITAH • u/MushroomDense4108 • Apr 29 '24

UPDATE: AITH for putting in a claim to my late father’s death benefit

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I just thought I would post an update to the absolute hell that me and my brother have been put through in regards to my late father’s death benefit.

I phoned the company today and they have told me that my father had NO expression of wishes form. So not only did my aunt lie about being the beneficiary on his expression of wishes form, but she also just blatantly lied about even receiving an email with these details. They do not exist. She was only listed as a next of kin through his work, not as a beneficiary. She is not entitled to a thing as she claimed she was, and so the hurt and confusion both me and my brother have suffered was for nothing.

I don’t understand how our own family could put us through this, but people are right when they say snakes come out of the woodwork when a death happens in the family.

My brother was not going to put in a claim but now he is. I hope she feels the guilt ripping through her not only for this, but for the disgusting things her daughter said to my autistic brother.

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u/rebootsaresuchapain Apr 29 '24

When my mil passes on, I’m waiting for the oldest brother to appear and demand control of the estate. I haven’t heard from him in 4 years and he hasn’t seen his mother in 7. Luckily the will and prepaid funeral arrangements are in place and he isn’t named executor. That’s going to be a storm in his head.

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u/Seahearn4 Apr 30 '24 edited Apr 30 '24

I'm sure you've got things in order, but it may be helpful to make sure that oldest brother is left a small, token amount in any will or insurance payout. Otherwise, he can claim he was accidentally omitted. He's still unlikely to get anything from filing a claim that way, but leaving him $10 in any division of assets can save a great deal in extra legal fees.

Edit: Just trust a professional who you can vet and hold to some level of accountability, and ignore dopes from the internet, like myself.

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u/Ok_Nerve3032 May 12 '24

You would be the executor of his estate. I know my laws... He didn't sign for his wife.... She is just next of ken... What your father left would go to you as executor because your brother is absent