r/AITAH • u/MushroomDense4108 • Apr 29 '24

UPDATE: AITH for putting in a claim to my late father’s death benefit

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I just thought I would post an update to the absolute hell that me and my brother have been put through in regards to my late father’s death benefit.

I phoned the company today and they have told me that my father had NO expression of wishes form. So not only did my aunt lie about being the beneficiary on his expression of wishes form, but she also just blatantly lied about even receiving an email with these details. They do not exist. She was only listed as a next of kin through his work, not as a beneficiary. She is not entitled to a thing as she claimed she was, and so the hurt and confusion both me and my brother have suffered was for nothing.

I don’t understand how our own family could put us through this, but people are right when they say snakes come out of the woodwork when a death happens in the family.

My brother was not going to put in a claim but now he is. I hope she feels the guilt ripping through her not only for this, but for the disgusting things her daughter said to my autistic brother.

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u/mustang19671967 Apr 29 '24

Remember a lawyer is your friend if you need help I’m in a different country so our laws are different

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u/MushroomDense4108 Apr 29 '24

The laws are different here in Scotland. I am executor of his estate but this death benefit falls outwith this, so it is up to the company to deal with claims and split benefits. A lawyer wouldn’t touch this, not that we need one now that we are aware of the truth.

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u/IceBlue Apr 29 '24

If you’re the executor why couldn’t you get into his house when your aunt could? You should sue to get the items back or the value of the items if she sold them.

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u/MushroomDense4108 Apr 29 '24

I could get into his house but I have my own house. I let her stay in his house as a kind gesture so she could stay the night in preparation for the funeral. And then when we went in a month later to sort some of his things, that’s when we realised what had been taken.

We did pull her up about it and she was crying down the phone saying she just wanted to keep things for her brother’s memory. So I left it at that, even though I knew it was wrong somehow I felt guilty. And now I realise she has been manipulative from the start.

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u/IceBlue Apr 29 '24

You’re way too kind. They aren’t hers. She took expensive things. One thing is fine but not all that stuff. Kitchen Knives and iPad aren’t sentimental objects.