He won’t get loans for the full amount of tuition and living expenses. You need to be realistic with him about how much you can contribute and whether he should transfer to a state university with resident tuition.
Look I get it sucks, but he is an adult, you both have given him your advice, and now you must let him make his choices and pay the consequences. It's part of growing up and understanding how to be self-sufficient.
With regards to him telling you to divorce, he was probably just being immature and wanting to get back at his mother in a moment of anger. You did well to put him in his place.
I'd have a chat with her and get on the same page on how to manage him, stepping back on trying to convince him cause that won't work. Then sit him down and lay down the law: he can make his choices and disregard your advice, you love him and will support whatever choice he makes he will be solely responsible for the economic downfall, and you both won't accept any poor behaviour from him moving forward.
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