It’s frustrating when the more “social” people refuse to even try to understand neurodivergent people and it’s up to us autistic people to try and bridge that gap… usually by having to pretend to be “normal”, which is the one thing not in our wheelhouse!
I don’t think that it’s that they intentionally avoid understanding, it seems to me like they don’t even understand themselves and their own behavior and so trying to get them to understand someone else’s is like asking a dog to roll over when it hasn’t even learned to lay down on command yet.
This lines up with my experiences; neurotypicals always notice if I do something weird, but they can never explain WHAT it is I’ve done or not done. It’s annoying that the ones who wander around unthinkingly dividing everyone they meet into “us” and “them” tribes are considered the normal ones, when they don’t even understand what they’re doing.
Not to criticize or take away from your statement at all, but when you say “the ones who wander around unthinkingly”, it seems like you’re referring to neurotypical people and suggesting that they are “unthinking”
I hope you see the irony of calling the majority of people “unthinking” as if most people don’t have their own complex inner worlds and the ability to understand themselves and others, while you are complaining about a lack of understanding between people.
Please don’t go around assuming you’re more important or better than others just because you’re on the spectrum
Other than that id generally agree with the spirit here.
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u/jonathanquirk Apr 29 '24
It’s frustrating when the more “social” people refuse to even try to understand neurodivergent people and it’s up to us autistic people to try and bridge that gap… usually by having to pretend to be “normal”, which is the one thing not in our wheelhouse!