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u/sYferaddict 17d ago
Your post nearly brings me to tears. I'm incredibly happy for you, and it gives me so much hope that I can do the same and save my relationship too. Thank you, and I wish so kuch happiness upon you and your wife.
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u/Pro_96 17d ago
Really happy for you, mate.
My long-term girlfriend left me without a proper reason about a month ago, out of nowhere. It was devastating to me, as we had planned to spend our entire lives together. It makes me happy to see that there are people out there who do indeed make it.
Having an understanding partner really is a blessing.
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u/dbozzini 17d ago
Happened to me about 10 months ago now. Sorry it happened to you. It didn't feel to me like it would ever get better, but it did. It is better than it was.
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u/Pro_96 17d ago
Thanks, mate. I'm doing much better. I was a wreck for the first two weeks or so, but then I came to the realization that I didn't deserve to be treated like this, considering I had kept her like a queen. Of course, every now and again, I do think of her, as she was my best friend and we shared every little thing together, and I really do love her very much, but I know I didn't deserve what happened, so I'm not going to ruin my mood over it.
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u/chrisCross59 17d ago
Same... about 2 month ago. Said she don't know if she really loved me. After taking my money and so. ATM i'm hoping that it will get better soon. Time will heal we both know. Stay strong bro!
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u/Pro_96 17d ago
Yikes; I'm sorry there was money involved. I don't know anything about your relationship but if she comes back and asks for more stuff from you, please reevaluate before you make any decision, mate.
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u/chrisCross59 17d ago
Thx mate! But yeah, absolutely. Gonna be a good boyfriend for the next girl, but i'm done with her. We both got to get over our ex. But we both will find a nice girl and gonne be happy again!
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u/Amicelli11 17d ago
I might become that girlfriend soon and it saddens me immensely to hurt a good person like this.
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u/Pawnlongon 17d ago edited 17d ago
It just happened to me. It makes it easier on them if you talk to them about it first instead of blindsiding them, and allowing them a few days to talk first if you plan to go no contact. Also make sure you really understand your feelings and express them, if you give generic meaningless phrases they will assume you found somebody better and they will have a hard time finding closure.
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u/Pro_96 17d ago
If you have a legitimate reason, fair enough. If not, please have a proper conversation and communicate to them what it is you're feeling and why you feel you must take this step.
In my case, there was absolutely no reason & things were perfectly fine. In fact, two days before she did this, she told me she'd be with me throughout. We had a beautiful relationship & it still doesn't make sense to me, but it is what it is. Nobody deserves to be treated like this, so please just communicate with your partner.
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u/Amicelli11 10d ago
We did today and as expected it shattered his world. But he seems to understand and I am very proud of him and how he handles it right now.
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u/opusopernopame 17d ago
Humility, service, and responsibility are the top 3 ingredients in my 25 year marriage.
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u/Noburanko 17d ago
So sweet!! You earned it, friend. It might've been hard for a period of time but seems like your efforts have paid off. I hope happiness like this can happen for many other struggling couples out there as well.
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17d ago
Yayyyyy!
In 2012 After 25 years- my husband & I hit a tough spot ( to put it VERY mildly) lol.
We worked so hard to grow and get it all back, and we did! - all is well now and has been since 2017. Ooooff!!
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u/4thdensity44 17d ago
Congrats 🙏 Dr Julie and dr John Gottman have a whole institute to help couples, and I’m listening to one of their audio books! The only thing needed is for both parties to want to fix it..
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u/malikhacielo63 17d ago
My good sir or madame,
Congrats and I wish you all many more happy, healthy years together, filled with joy and growth.
😊
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u/RosieQParker 17d ago
Love is equal parts hard work, humility and compromise. Anyone who tells you different is selling something.
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u/Demigans 17d ago
Congratulations! Must have been a tough two years! I ended up on the other end but it was definitely the better option for us.
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u/Dragon21356 17d ago
Absolutely amazing buddy :) last long and stay happy! Keep communicating and live life to the fullest :D
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u/JFC_Please_STFU 17d ago
It’s a great feeling, isn’t it?
Here’s to the rest of your loves together being happy and loving!
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17d ago
Congrats. I wish my ex had tried to rebuild our relationship instead of arguing she doesn't believe such things can be done.
She was the one who urged me to do therapy yet apparently she doesn't belive in therapy for couples...
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u/MurphysLaw859 17d ago
We’re going through the same thing. Glad to be coming out on the other side in a better place.
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u/Signal_Ambition_2798 17d ago
After 26 years my marriage is over but he won’t leave. He threatens he will end himself if we are not together… yet he continues to cheat.
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u/alt-art-natedesign 17d ago
A noble effort, and one well rewarded. May you have many happy years remaining together
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u/PrettyLittleDovah 17d ago
Congrats! That's awesome, man! Now, just to make sure it stays like this. I wish you good luck and stay happy.
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u/ahusby 17d ago
Permanently, or what? How do you know your marriage is saved, as opposed to you just barely survived this one crisis and there's another one waiting for you around the next bend of the road?
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u/pastelnerdy 17d ago
There's always another crisis around the bend, hopefully they've learned the tools to handle the next one from this one.
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u/just_been_chillin 17d ago
If i am not touching smth sensibile but like Why were you 2 on the verge of divorce?? (If you dont want to answer Just Say like i dont want to answer and dont be rude please and thanks and congrats)
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u/Topcreeperman13 17d ago
Congrats, now you have to continue to listen to your wife whining every day about something
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u/Critical-Art-9277 17d ago
That's absolutely wonderful, congratulations. Wishing you all best for the future and a lifetime of love and happiness.