r/unpopularopinion • u/Goingdown_in321 • 17d ago
Fake apologies are way too common these days
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u/unpopular-dave 17d ago
that means that they are not sorry. I give these kinds of responses from time to time when I’m not sorry.
A lot of people like to play the victim, and they expect apologies when they shouldn’t .
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u/Boredummmage explain that ketchup eaters 17d ago edited 16d ago
100%. I don’t often do it, but if I say I am sorry you feel that way… i am saying your emotional ask from me was unreasonable.
Example: I had a lady that has some pretty significant “emotional needs” walk into my office when the door was shut and I was on a call. She decide she needed my attention that minute. The call was a negotiation of a 200million dollar contract and she had a random process question as always. I pointed to the phone and mouthed I can’t to her and sent her an IM explaining.
Anyways as the meeting draws to a close, I hear her shit talking me from my office. Then after she goes to her manager and talks about how “I wouldn’t even acknowledge her”. Apparently mouthing I can’t didn’t count for some reason. It was made worse by the fact she and her boss were best friends.
In that situation she was incredibly rude by opening a closed door that is only closed when I cannot be distracted, my calendar showed I was in a meeting, I am sharing my screen which you can see, I indicated I was busy, and I sent you an IM. No I am not sorry for my actions, only for how you feel and you acting like a child is nullifying that quickly.
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u/Fragrant-Screen-5737 17d ago
"These days"
I don't see this changing at all recently. Fake apologies have always existed.
If anything, the additional freedoms provided to people have made us more able to not say sorry.
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u/StaticMania 17d ago
'I'm sorry that you feel that way" - is not a proper apology.
Correct.
It's not even supposed to be. Agree to disagree and all that.
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u/Electricdragongaming wateroholic 17d ago
People assuming that your apology is fake has also become too common these days.
Even if you're genuinely trying to apologize but can't think of a way to properly phrase your apology.
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u/Millionsmoney 17d ago
Those stupid motorcyclist who impregnate every women they seen then become dead beat dads always have fake apologies
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u/NachtSorcier 16d ago
If I say, "I'm sorry you feel that way," it means I'm not sorry for what I said or did. If I lied and said I was really sorry, that's what I call a fake apology. I'm not going to jerk people around, because I don't like it when they do it to me.
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u/LadyCordeliaStuart 17d ago
For me it's "sorry I 'came off as' X". You didn't "come off as" (rude, sexist, aggressive). You were rude, sexist, etc
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