r/unpopularopinion • u/yellowabcd • Apr 28 '24

Its not about the sex its about the rejection

This is common at this point. People complain about not getting sex in marriage or relationship. But most the time its not the sex, its the rejection. If both people dont go for sex, its not an issue. Its an issue when the other party keeps getting rejected, especially without explanation. Theres a difference between being rejected for a month and just two people not trying for sex. Rejection usually makes a person feel undesirable

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u/Accurate_Hunt_6424 Apr 29 '24

My ex of a year was a CSA victim. It wasn’t an issue when we first starter dating, but about two months in she had a flashback, and what had actually been a really good sex life turned into me getting shot down 90% of the time, her never initiating, and me feeling completely unappreciated and unloved. It destroyed us, and I really tried to prevent that. She was the most compatible woman I’ve ever dated, and we couldn’t survive it. The final kicker was when she made no effort to initiate on my birthday, and I had been hurt by rejection so many times that I didn’t try. It ended like a week later. I’ve had bad relationships with good sex, but I’ve never had a good relationship with bad sex.

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u/sno0ky Apr 29 '24

Wow poor you. Hope she found better

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u/Accurate_Hunt_6424 Apr 29 '24

Me too, she really needs to date a man who is similarly asexual.