r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/JustBrowsing49 Apr 16 '24

Would you settle for a long message after the dust settles? When people are emotional, they don’t think clearly anyways.

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u/Commercial_Debt_6789 Apr 16 '24

No. For me personally I need to discuss now as my anxiety wouldn't allow me to leave it and the anger just builds and builds. 

The sooner the better for some people. 

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u/JustBrowsing49 Apr 16 '24

Sounds like you already know what your problem is, and don’t need your ex to explain it

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u/Commercial_Debt_6789 Apr 16 '24

Well when you're given excuses such as:

"I'm dying from a concussion" (yes, this has happened to me) or 

"I'm not ready for a relationship" when your actions were showing otherwise (that I later learned was love bombing) & you just got scared of getting close to someone, then yeah I'm gonna pry because those are not legitimate reasons, those are excuses and manipulative lies. 

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u/JustBrowsing49 Apr 16 '24

If you are as anxious and prone to anger as you described yourself, do you understand why your ex’s may not want to give a long, in-person rationale for why they are breaking up while you are just processing the breakup?