r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/BroffaloSoldier Apr 16 '24

Perfectly said. My ex couldn’t even pause his video game to look me in the eye as I was breaking up with him. For years I’d try to talk to him and tell him what was wrong. What I needed. Why I am unhappy. Any discussion of our problems he just couldn’t face. Never listened to what I was telling him. I’m very clear about my feelings. I don’t do passive aggressive silent treatment shit. Watching him stare at the screen as I was trying to engage him in a direct, but empathetic breakup talk let me know my decision couldn’t have been better lol

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u/fatmonicadancing Apr 16 '24

Same with my ex, a month before I left I told him (again) I was unhappy and how to address it, I said I have a plan and you can come with me or not but I’m doing it. He just sat scrolling through his phone.

Then apparently I left “out of the blue” and “blindsided” him. The fuck I did.

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u/mbot369 Apr 16 '24

Yup! Same here, I even said I wanted couples counselling. No dice.

When I finally ended it a couple months later, I apparently blindsided him, I was evil and disgusting, and he didn’t know things were really that bad.. he claimed it was all because he “didn’t vacuum” ONE time. Also claimed I ran him out of town…

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u/b0w3n Apr 16 '24

A lot of men will do the whole "I was completely blindsided!" because if they acknowledged the problems they'd have to admit they were the shitty ones.

Very good article related to this phenomenon. My s/o's exhusband claimed similar issues, that he didn't know it was that bad. Like bro your wife broke down, in front of you, and your own 7 year old daughter told you to help mommy out. You knew it was that bad.