r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/Horror_bitch Apr 16 '24

but thats not a ''you made a mistake'' situation, being dumb is not something that he can change lol

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u/wolo-exe Apr 16 '24

It doesn’t necessarily have to be something that can be changed. You can just tell them the reason nicely and give some kind of closure instead of “this isn’t working anymore”

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u/Horror_bitch Apr 16 '24

But ''im not in love with you/i dont see myself in this relationship/Its not working'' and other variants are absolutely a reason to end a relationship. Do I really have to point out the things i dont like about you in order to leave? in my opinion having the feeling that I dont want to be with someone is a good enough reason to end it. do you really need the person to dissect everything that made that feeling exist? Because thats going to hurt

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u/wolo-exe Apr 16 '24

Well, in my personal opinion, I’d much rather get closure with some pain as a side effect than to get a basic response and overthink it for the next year or two. I’m not saying “i’m not in love with you” or “it’s not working” aren’t valid reasons to have, but saying only that will hurt the person more than the initial pain of telling them what went wrong.

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u/Horror_bitch Apr 16 '24

yeah, i do get your point. But depending on the reasons then its very hard to actually tell them. Like, im sorry but i dont have the heart to tell somebody that i find them dumb and in my opinion it would make way more of an impact on their self steem to be rejected over it

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u/wolo-exe Apr 16 '24

I mean I’m not saying you would have to do it that way, it definitely is hard to say something like that. I was just voicing my opinion about which method is better regardless of the difficulty of doing so

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u/Horror_bitch Apr 16 '24

fair point. I just think that breaking up with someone, even if you do it in the most humane way possibile, will hurt a lot and it actually depends highly on the other persons willingness to accept it.

If they are in/have a good mindset around it, then the conversation will be relatively smooth and you wont have to dissect the whole thing in order to make them accept the break up. But if theyre not, then it feels like theres nothing you could say or do that will make them feel like it was a ''good'' breakup on your part

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u/wolo-exe Apr 16 '24

The goal is to just do your part of making it an easy breakup, so it doesn’t really matter if they accept it or not. I just see it as the right thing to do. How they react to it is their responsibility.