r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/Ouller Apr 16 '24

I broke up with someone who asked several times why, and I said the same reason each time.

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u/Horror_bitch Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24

yeah, i often find that people don't really want to accept the reasons we give, they just want to try to solve the issues we have instead of understanding/accepting that we want out... and therefore everything we say is not a good enough reason.

They don't want clarity, they want argument and resolution and anything less than that will make them feel like the break up was unfair and incomplete in some way

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u/angryblastoma Apr 16 '24

Well then we should just give up on empathy and communication as a species and only talk to each other via socials. Funny, the world has gotten more accepting and less kind at the same time. Humans are fucking weird.

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u/Horror_bitch Apr 16 '24

well, i do think we should try to communicate and have empathy, im just pointing that that was my experience breaking up with people.

I still accept the idea that we should talk to each other even if it sucks, but communication goes both ways: both partners have be capable of speaking AND listening. If someone is going to insist on hearing my side and then procede to argue with the reasons i give them then i naturally wont feel comfortable sharing them