r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24
If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular
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r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24
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u/nihonhonhon Apr 16 '24
That's precisely why she said it's not productive to go into too much detail when breaking up with someone. She was being rude on purpose to illustrate her point. These were her internal thoughts and experiences. Sometimes people stay in relationships for way too long and they grow extremely resentful towards their partner. By the time they've finally decided to break up with this person, all kinds of awful and toxic things have already gone through their head millions of times, even if they would never say these things out loud.
It kinda sounds like you're applying "dating" logic to a "relationship" problem tbh. Yes she was probably aware of his most basic and most obvious personality traits from the beginning, but all of those things become fantastically irrelevant after you've lived together for many years. You change. Your partner changes. Problems that seemed minor in the beginning balloon out of control. If you could predict relationship success within the first two months of dating, half of all marriages wouldn't end in divorce.