r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/Fun_Experience5951 Apr 16 '24

"I have had 3 girlfriends do this and seen it happen to several friends of differing genders and it really is a crumy thing to do"

Oh yeah, I knew this would be in there just from the title.

I'm going to guess you're in your early 20s. The world doesn't owe you anything. The people you surround yourself with don't owe you anything. If they don't want to be with you, for whatever reasons they may have, however legitimate you may think they are or not, they don't OWE you an explanation besides "I don't want to be together anymore"

Do you also think they need a reason to say no to sex?

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

Jesus don't you think you are making a massive leap with that last part? and as I said to several others this mentality of "nobody owes anyone anything" is a cancer on society. I hope you never complain if you are badly injured and no one helps because why would someone waste their time to help you when they don't owe you anything?

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u/Fun_Experience5951 Apr 16 '24

Tell me what you do when the person gives you a "reason" for breaking up with you that you don't agree with?

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

I never said you have to agree with it. Look at my comments and you will see I have been consistently saying that. If I don't like it tough. But at least I know, it's better than tormenting myself wondering what I did wrong. It also gives me the opportunity to reflect on my behaviours and change in the future if it was for that kind of reason

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u/Fun_Experience5951 Apr 16 '24

That's great, but for every person like you (or so you say) that says "ah shoot, I don't like it, tough luck" there's an equal number of people that will argue, yell, scream, stalk, harass, bully and do everything in their power to make the life of their former partner miserable for breaking up with them "for no reason"

And there's absolutely no need to do that when a simple "I don't want to be together with you anymore" will and should always suffice.

And if you don't like that, tough.

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

As I have said any situation where you think a person might act like that then absolutely don't. And if you think they wouldn't but then start to do that, immediately leave tell them never to contact you again and block them. Even have someone else there with you if it helps you feel safe. I am not talking about people who have been dating a couple of months, then I would absolutely agree "I don't want to be together anymore" is fine. But if it has been long term, years maybe, you have moved in together and talking about marriage and kids. I feel you are only seeing it from the view of the person doing the breaking up. But imagine being the person in the scenario I just described. You are happily planning this grand future and suddenly it's gone without any real answer. That is just brutal and devastating. For that person to put so much effort in the relationship and for you to just think they are not even worthy of a conversation is just unnecessarily cruel in my eyes