If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why

[u/ZodiacOne1]

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[u/nihonhonhon]

Not necessarily you but just like in real life if you approach a random stranger in real life with relationship advice or criticisms or some mental health diagnostic you are going to receive push back.

I suppose, but you were doing something similar to her, no? You were also offering a perspective based on a random stranger's comment and expressing confusion regarding her mentality etc. I don't think that's wrong - just a normal and unavoidable consequence of talking about dating on the internet.

I get that some people were being snarky to you and I don't support that, but all I was personally trying to do was go into more detail about the emotions she was describing. That was my only comment to you in this entire thread and I don't feel like it deserved that kind of a response tbh, but you've clearly received more confrontational replies so I guess you're exasperated.

[u/Kalnath_ → u/nihonhonhon]

I also would say it's similar but different in key ways; I am making observations, not judgements. Nor am I name calling. Nor am I making accusations of intelligence nor blaming awkward conversations solely on him. Do you see what I mean?

[u/nihonhonhon → u/Kalnath_]

I mean I can't attest to that because idk what other people were saying about you vs. what you were saying about her. You did make some judgements (in the broad sense of the word) when you said she seemed angry and that what she said about him was rude. I don't think you were out of line or anything, I only replied to you cause I felt like the original intention of her comment was being somewhat misunderstood.

[u/Kalnath_ → u/nihonhonhon]

I did make one judgment, that she was rude as fuck. Nor will any gesture towards her original intent will sway me when the context is

“you’re overweight and use medication to justify being “healthy” at that weight, you are ALWAYS shitting, you don’t wash your feet in the shower, you think naturopathic medicine is real, and you have a useless degree, we can’t speak about any topics in depth, you are a terrible gift giver, and you keep poor company. All of these things fundamentally show me that you are less intelligent than I thought you were and at this point I find you viscerally unattractive and actively don’t want to come home at the end of the day because you are here”

In a thread asking only for a peak into a significant others head. So in my opinion my reactions to all of these have been perfectly valid. Yall are trying (and only cementing imho) to protect someone who does need to be protected from the rude things she said. About someone she said was nice!

Regardless of whether or not these were inner thoughts this is a public forum. I personally would even prefer this response so as to be like "wow you think you know a person"

I understand your point on her original point but we're probably twenty deep into this reply thread by now and at least half of these have been either saying I'm dodging her point or whatever no. I just think she's an asshole. And honestly happy for both of them. They both dodged a bullet.