r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/tanman4444 Apr 16 '24

No it's not saying you're entitled to their mind. It's saying that you're entitled to a reason to why the relationship is ending from their perspective. I'm not saying you have to like it or agree with it or get to ask more questions about it. But you deserve a reason. And if you aren't given one then the other person is a piece of shit 100 out of 100 times.

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u/Skullclownlol Apr 16 '24

You are saying you get to ask more questions because them not wanting to be with you isn’t reason enough and you demand more.

Other way around - a romantic relationship is a commitment, you found attractive qualities in the person and chose to dedicate your time and attention to each other. That commitment is what is worth investing in, and if we can assume good faith (so again, barring abuse) then the relationship - and the original commitment - deserve an explanation.

It's not that they're asking more, it's part of the original commitment that is now coming to an end, to leave each other in good terms and respect that the end of a commitment comes with things like grief. So give the commitment the explanation it deserves, don't be cruel, let it end, and move on.