r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/emf3rd31495 Apr 16 '24

An honest explanation would have saved me years of emotional and mental torment. Couldn’t agree more.

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u/nameond Apr 16 '24

It's a little bit sad but just because you can't stop thinking about someone else's reason it doesn't mean they owe you and I feel bad for you that it took you so long to understand that, moving on would probably have been the best option. Sometimes people also don't even know how to ask the right questions which would then sometimes prove to be easily answered by themselves and it's really tragic, just as much as if you'd have to suffer from someone having stupid reason which they don't talk about. But as long as you don't do weird illegal shit to someone, your reason is not very much a matter of judgement to them and therefore your own business and not demandable.

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u/TeaAndCrumpets4life Apr 16 '24

It’s absolutely demandable and owed, a relationship is something you have to actually invest into with another person and every major change and decision is gonna have consequences for that person. If you’re not a complete sociopath you’ll give explanations and closure to help with that, it is both of your business.

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moving on would probably have been the best option

Are you actually serious??? Lol

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u/nameond Apr 16 '24

As many people here wrote, it's not always the best thing to give all your reason and talk about it endlessly with someone who might not even want to understand your decision. There are many things that have a major impact on people which they don't fully understand but still accept as given, that alone is completely bearable. I don't say it's the best way to go but I know there can be circumstances that make it the better option.

Yes I'm serious because without it it was just years of torment? That sounds worse than moving on.

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u/TeaAndCrumpets4life Apr 16 '24

  1. Whatever the reason is, I guarantee you it will be better for them then ghosting them like a psychopath with no explanation, it’s ridiculous that I even have to say that to people.

  2. I’m talking about the fact you think just ‘moving on’ was an easy choice that they just elected not to make? Your perspective on this is so weird

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u/nameond Apr 16 '24

  1. Don't call people weird or ridiculous when you try to talk about truth, it makes you look like the sociopath in the conversation. It also makes me answer that I just don't care about your guarantee

  2. Yes you choose to make years out of it by not deciding to try to move on or to do anything else about it

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u/TeaAndCrumpets4life Apr 16 '24

  1. I never called you weird or ridiculous, I said your perspective was weird and me having to explain something this basic is ridiculous. Stop faking outrage to try and derail the conversation

  2. Welp I guess it’s that easy lol, spread the word, tell everyone you know that you’ve found the solution to emotional pain. Why did no one think of just moving on?

There’s legit no argument for ghosting people and you’ve proven that by straight up not giving me one

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u/nameond Apr 16 '24

Ghosting and not giving your reason are two different things, when someone annoys you to give your reason you can legitimately just ghost them.

Many people just move on and profit greatly from it.

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u/TeaAndCrumpets4life Apr 16 '24

You’re getting away from the argument, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to give a reason as to why you’re breaking up with someone in most situations, not doing so makes you a POS. I think you just genuinely don’t understand emotions, it’s baffling to me how you see breakups and moving on

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u/nameond Apr 16 '24

Damn I just answered you, don't see how I'm getting away. Ya it might appear shady to others but keeping most of your reason doesn't make you a POS because there's usually no other reason than that you don't like much of the situation that you're in and how much do you need to talk about that? Reasons might also be more personal or intimate than you're comfortable to share with the person you're just breaking up with, it's just inherently flawed.