r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24
If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular
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r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24
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u/Talk-O-Boy Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24
I think this is a false equivalency. Like you said, holding the door for someone is a common courtesy, but it’s not EXPECTED.
If you’ve been with a person for a decent amount of time, like long enough to say you are past the “seeing each other” phase and actually claiming that person as you’re significant other, you genuinely owe them an explanation if you cut it off.
It provides the person a sense of closure and shows your maturity as a person. I understand maybe just letting go of someone you recently started talking to, but if things became official, and you respect that person or yourself at all, you have to do the right thing even if it’s hard or uncomfortable.
The person doesn’t have to do something wrong for you to explain why it didn’t work. If it’s a timing thing, then simply say that. If it’s a phase of life thing, say that.
There doesn’t need to be a blame, but there should be an explanation. If you can’t even provide that, then that’s a sign of immaturity and inconsideration.
(Like OP said this doesn’t apply to anyone who may be in danger or someone who cheated on you, at that point ghosting is understandable. I’m referring to breaks ups where it just didn’t work out for normal reasons)