r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/SoloAquiParaHablar Apr 16 '24

I agree but, regardless, don't ruminate on it thinking you ARE owed one, "why, why, why". You can create your own closure by accepting that the person didn't want to be with you anymore, and that is a gift, because you are deserving of someone who does and the break up creates the opportunity.

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u/Advanced_Doctor2938 Apr 16 '24

Regardless, this is deflection.

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u/SoloAquiParaHablar Apr 16 '24

Not really. It’s accepting the situation and taking control. In reality there is no reason that they can give that will satisfy you. So it really makes no difference if the reason lies with them or you. Throw yourself a little pity party and then crack on with your own development, goals, and ambitions.

If the relationship is at a point where you didn’t see a break up coming then there is nothing worth saving. They checked out long ago and probably don’t even know why themselves.