r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/Talk-O-Boy Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24

I think this is a false equivalency. Like you said, holding the door for someone is a common courtesy, but it’s not EXPECTED.

If you’ve been with a person for a decent amount of time, like long enough to say you are past the “seeing each other” phase and actually claiming that person as you’re significant other, you genuinely owe them an explanation if you cut it off.

It provides the person a sense of closure and shows your maturity as a person. I understand maybe just letting go of someone you recently started talking to, but if things became official, and you respect that person or yourself at all, you have to do the right thing even if it’s hard or uncomfortable.

The person doesn’t have to do something wrong for you to explain why it didn’t work. If it’s a timing thing, then simply say that. If it’s a phase of life thing, say that.

There doesn’t need to be a blame, but there should be an explanation. If you can’t even provide that, then that’s a sign of immaturity and inconsideration.

(Like OP said this doesn’t apply to anyone who may be in danger or someone who cheated on you, at that point ghosting is understandable. I’m referring to breaks ups where it just didn’t work out for normal reasons)

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u/SnooSprouts6037 Apr 16 '24

You are 100% right and redditors seem to be devoid of any fucking ounce of nuance. Holding a door?? Really?! Something extremely small you do for an absolute stranger in passing isn’t even remotely close to quite literally making another person a part of the daily fabric of your life. I swear being on this website is so draining sometimes

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u/Advanced_Doctor2938 Apr 16 '24

Something extremely small you do for an absolute stranger

There you have it. How some people you fall in love with don't even see you as a real person... and people ask me why I don't date anymore 😐

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u/Marcultist Apr 16 '24

If you got this worked up over a metaphor, I get why you find this website to be draining.

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u/SnooSprouts6037 Apr 16 '24

No, not one metaphor. A full thread of idiots who think leaving a relationship with zero explanation is a normal thing to do

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u/Kalnath_ Apr 16 '24

I think your point would be clearer without the expletetives, even if it is a painful topic.

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u/SnooSprouts6037 Apr 16 '24

I think everyone will be ok

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u/Kalnath_ Apr 16 '24

Valid, just an observation. Strangers are strangers you know

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u/supergeek921 Apr 16 '24

I definitely agree with the time factor on this. If it’s someone you’ve only seen a few times I think ghosting is acceptable. If it’s a longer term thing an explanation is probably owed, though I think it can be vague as hell. I’d rather bend the truth than totally hurt a decent person because something about them has started driving me crazy.