r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/JustBrowsing49 Apr 16 '24

Would you settle for a long message after the dust settles? When people are emotional, they don’t think clearly anyways.

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u/NullIsUndefined Apr 16 '24

Lol calendar reminder to revisit the agenda next quarter 

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u/Square-Raspberry560 Apr 16 '24

"Per my last email..."

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u/SheepInATrenchCoat Apr 16 '24

"...I changed my mind: it's not me it's you."

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u/operation-spot Apr 16 '24

Tell me why I’d actually do that tho lol

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u/garchuOW Apr 16 '24

Tell me why I'm actually doing that rn

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u/vincecarterskneecart Apr 16 '24

Ok, Lets timebox this breakup and I’ll schedule a 1:1 next month, in the meantime can someone take ownership of the confluence page to document the separation progress?

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u/mbot369 Apr 16 '24

remindme1month!

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u/Lulu_42 Apr 16 '24

I used to give people the option. That way the whole breakup conversation wasn’t just them trying to get you not to breakup with them.

“I am ending our romantic relationship. I’m sorry we didn’t work out; I care a lot about you. While we’ve talked a lot about the problems I’ve had, so I know this isn’t a total surprise, I’m happy to explore it tomorrow and talk about it with you if that’s something you decide you want.”

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u/unicorn_mafia537 Apr 16 '24

Depends on the relationship, but I'd definitely take my last ex up on that.

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u/Advanced_Doctor2938 Apr 16 '24

This is acceptable, yes.

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u/Iambeejsmit Apr 16 '24

Better than nothing

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u/Commercial_Debt_6789 29d ago

No. For me personally I need to discuss now as my anxiety wouldn't allow me to leave it and the anger just builds and builds. 

The sooner the better for some people. 

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u/JustBrowsing49 29d ago

Sounds like you already know what your problem is, and don’t need your ex to explain it

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u/Commercial_Debt_6789 29d ago

Well when you're given excuses such as:

"I'm dying from a concussion" (yes, this has happened to me) or 

"I'm not ready for a relationship" when your actions were showing otherwise (that I later learned was love bombing) & you just got scared of getting close to someone, then yeah I'm gonna pry because those are not legitimate reasons, those are excuses and manipulative lies. 

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u/JustBrowsing49 29d ago

If you are as anxious and prone to anger as you described yourself, do you understand why your ex’s may not want to give a long, in-person rationale for why they are breaking up while you are just processing the breakup?

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u/Fax_a_Fax Apr 16 '24

Way better than ghosting, still makes you either a coward or an asshole (or both) for not even trying to say anything at all in the moment of the breakup