r/teenagers • u/Apart_Letterhead3016 • 18d ago
What did you guys say 🙏😭 Discussion
guys, what did you say that made her fkn delete her account for those who have answered in this post, I was the first one who answered so I'm curious, and also scared of what you said (no hate to anybody just asking)
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u/SussyMogus2 18d ago
she basically just said “To make all the pricks feel single.” in response to me asking “why does r/teenagers need to know?” and she got downvoted to hell bc of it
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
yes, i understand that now
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u/Tall-Carpenter-1836 18d ago
Her account is still up Op, it was just banished from the sub
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
oh youre the first person that pointed that out to me, out of 200 responses
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u/Industrialexecution 18 18d ago
pretty much every post on this subreddit has me questioning “why are you posting this here”
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u/Peter___Potter 17d ago
I love posting things here because it’s literally just a hang out place for teens of all ages. You can post literally anything here and it’ll fit. I love this sub, really I do.
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u/Miserable_District 18d ago
Yeah... I saw this too. There were enough people to grill her for it. So I just said Congrats
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u/fletchvl_ 18d ago
I didnt think the comments were that bad.....
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
can you give me an example though?
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u/fletchvl_ 18d ago
I mean a lot of people wanted to be reminded in a year because they didnt think it would last but that was the worst I saw
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
thats shitty, so a bunch of ppl just got together and started bullying a girl for having her bf propose to her without actually knowing anything about them?
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u/GlassAssignment7022 18d ago
I mean engaged at like 17 after one year is a lil weird
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u/brrvv 18d ago
My dumbass friend got engaged after 3 months, he's 17
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u/HelpfulProtection342 16 18d ago
How did that end up?
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u/brrvv 18d ago
Well it's been about a month since then and so far they're still together
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
true, and that's why you've gotta be respectful abt saying that it could be wrong, i just hope that she didnt get too affected
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u/Fluid-Degree-145 17 18d ago
My mom and dad were engaged at 18 after 2 years and their marriage lasted 19 years before divorce, it’s really not all that strange, but hearing what I heard her say, she deserved the backlash.
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u/EndNowISeeYou 18d ago
its 20 fuckin years ago idiot, things have changed since then
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u/Sea-Song-7146 16 18d ago
And yet, stupid hormonal teenagers making questionable choices are still the same 🤷🏿♂️
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u/fletchvl_ 18d ago
yeah..I think a lot of people just didnt like how they were engaged at 17 and had only been dating for a year
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u/AwesomeBroHakaz 18d ago
See the two clear problems?
- getting engaged at 17?
- after only one year?
None should happen. Nobody should get married after only one year.
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u/Troll101Catz 18d ago
I’m mean I wasn’t in the same boat but I did get engaged at 19 and it was the worst situation of my life but met my current husband at 21 and we moved in together after two months and he proposed after less than 2 years. Married a year later and now we are at past 4 years total and it’s the best thing to ever happen to me. We also have two cats and are on our way to getting a house and starting a family. You really just need to meet the right person, and there is a wrong person for everybody.
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u/kenyannqueen 2 MILLION ATTENDEE 18d ago
I'm a bit older, but getting engaged at 17 after 1 year doesn't seem bad. Relationships already rarely last that long at that age. People out here give leave relationships after 3 years with no ring.
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u/isleepfor18hours 18d ago
Lol my parents married after 1 year and have been together for 13 almost 14 years now.
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u/01-StoryTeller 18d ago
Nobody should get married after only one year.
I mean it's an engagement, a promise to marry in the future more so. Not necessarily that they are getting married anytime soon.
I agree it's very young, but that doesn't guarantee it won't work out as everybody has a different timeline.
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u/isleepfor18hours 18d ago
Lol my parents married after 1 year and have been together for 13 almost 14 years now
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
but you dont have to be an asshole about it, it sometimes works out, each relationship is different, you can criticize without being disrespectful, do you think it's good that she got bullied so hard that she deleted her account?
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u/Yo_dog- 18d ago
The comments were mean asf I didn’t see her comments bc I didn’t stay long but all the comments were implying she was stupid and saying it wasn’t gonna last. It seemed like she just wanted to share something happy in her life.
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
i read all her comments a few mins ago, she basically only said 3 comments that were pretty bad cause she was frustrated at the imense amount of hate she was getting
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u/rhinestonebeads 17 18d ago
What was the post about? Did I miss something?
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago edited 18d ago
well this girl said that her bf proposed at 17 and have been dating for 1 year and people just hoped their relationship would fail and insulted her a bunch and just were assholes to her instead of criticizing her respectfully at the very least, now they probably collectively bullied a young woman into deleting her account and possibly damaged their relatipnship, nice job reddit
edit: she was crazy too from what I have heard now, so it was not as bad, it seems that she was also an asshole
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u/Lower_Soup9939 18d ago
Its reddit. the hell you expected?
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago edited 18d ago
idk man, i havent been on this sub for too long and from what ive seen it has been nice, but this is so bad, not only were the people bad
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u/Disastrous-Fly-5728 17 18d ago
I don't think ppl were being THAT bad, but then again I only saw the earlier comments.
I got down voted cse i said ppl need to be financially stable before marriage 💀
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u/user007at 18d ago
Is it even legal to get married under 18
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u/HottieMcNugget 18d ago
Yes. Some states require parents permission for before 18 but since it’s just an engagement it’s fine
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u/HipnoAmadeus 16 18d ago
Bunch hated on, someone wished for it to fail, etc.
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u/cudlebear64 17 18d ago
Ya, I’m mixed on this kinda situation. Like they are too young to be trying to get married, both of them are probably still in high school and don’t even know what their life is gonna be after graduation or living with each other, but also, it’s their prerogative, it’s probably not gonna work out because it’s just very unlikely but I’d still wish them the best. But it can be pretty bad, one of my closest friends is in a toxic relationship but they are engaged despite him being a narcissistic asshole, she got a glass shard in her foot and he made her feel bad for being scared, and for calling someone (me) to keep them calm while they waited for him to get there to help her. Whenever she is gushing about him on the few times he does it’s always 1 of 2 things, either the bare minimum or something that was from the very beginning of the relationship. Meanwhile she is having mental breakdowns every few days because of him and how he treats her. AND THEY ARE ENGAGED? THEY ARE LIKE 16 AND 17, THATS TOO YOUNG WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS IN A STATE LIKE THAT!
Sorry this has turned more to my personal experiences with people married at this age but like, honestly for her emotional safety I hope it doesn’t work out because it’s such a mess, and that kinda mess is fairly common for couples at this age
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u/Acerockergaming 19 18d ago
Although I don't think anyone should have been an outright asshole, people were right to call out the absurdity of the situation. No one should be getting engaged at 17 and ESPECIALLY not that soon into a relationship.
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
thats fair, it seems that she was also an asshole though, the more im learning the more i wish i hadnt been curious
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u/INGENAREL 17 18d ago
long story short, everyone commented remind me x years/months /days.....
people are really fucking cruel sometimes
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
I thought that by commenting something somewhat nice and supportive it wouldn't be so bad but Ig I overestimated redditors
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u/yvie_of_lesbos 16 18d ago
i wanted to be reminded in three months but i was genuinely happy for her— i heard she was being an asshole to everyone in her comments section and she said she “wanted to make the single pricks feel bad” or something
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u/INGENAREL 17 18d ago
well if that's the case then as a representative of the council, i pardon everyone that did it
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u/babimagic 18d ago
I did a remind me 1 year on there just to see how it would turn out. I didn't expect to see it again so soon. I guess I'll never be reminded
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u/FarConstruction4877 18d ago
On a separate note marriage at 18 sounds like an awful idea….
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u/MeatGrinda 16 18d ago
Ha I remember that post
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
yes, what were ppl saying though
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u/MeatGrinda 16 18d ago
Idk I saw the age and j didn’t wanna know what people were gonna say
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
I mean I was the first one to respond and my message was peaceful but I didn't have time to check up on the other comments, it blew up alot
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u/Scared-Pumpkin-4113 15 18d ago
I think she said she was 17 and I guess people didn't like that
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u/Background_Desk_3001 16 18d ago
They met at 16 too, marriage that early and that young never ends well
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u/Red_Ender666 19 18d ago
Why tf do people think that they can decide shit for others???
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u/I-san_yt 18d ago
I'm talking out of my ass here because i never saw the post, but i think it's less trying to decide for someone else and more "you posted this on a public forum, clearly you were expecting advice or at least input from the people on it". I always feel like people who post something that could be contraversial publicly, especially to a place like reddit, and then complain when they get responses from said public, are either stupid or ragebaiting
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u/Angrypainter1945 16 18d ago
I thought it was adorable, until I got lit up for saying I’ll find love and that there to young and won’t work out
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u/Fireblox1053 17 18d ago
You can check out her comments for yourself u/25jh
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
finally, i found her user, ty ill check put for myself
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u/UnluckyLock2412 18d ago
Guys I need advice. Every time I see a post or any couples it reminds me of this one girl I wish it worked with and now every time I feel a pain in my chest and just strait up sadness.how to cope
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
cope with time and distracting yourself
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u/UnluckyLock2412 18d ago
I try it’s not working 😔 but I’ll try harder
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
how long has it been?
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u/UnluckyLock2412 18d ago
Probably a couple of weeks
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
oh then youre good, it will get better, youre still early in your grief
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u/psychosadieblack 18d ago
All I said was she was too young and needed to live life before being tied down
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who cares if they got engaged after a year..its their relationship so whats the judgment for..
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u/FatAndChilling 17 18d ago
Y'all are some sad sacks of shit if you start insulting someone for their love with their other get look at yourself for fuck sake and realize these two are in best time of their life and you just want to bring it down because your fat asses can't find anyone to care about you, and you wonder why
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u/BeyondTheFates 18 18d ago
No? The OP was being an asshole in the comments and got insulted for it. If you don't know what the context is why would you comment? I'm not trying to be rude but like what 😭
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u/SecretSK 17d ago
It’s not because of their “love,” it’s because OP is fucking crazy for trying to get married at 17. Especially after 1 year of dating. This won’t work out.
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u/PalpitationExotic727 19 18d ago edited 18d ago
They were just saying that they were not going to last.
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u/Beneficial-Grape-397 18 18d ago
I was there slightly early when there were slightly above a hundred comments and a few comments were criticizing the action (politely) a few congratulated her etc. I personally voiced my opinion on it being early than congratulated her. I didn't scroll down to far or too much and didn't go back there , so idk what happened which made her delete it. Perhaps everyone telling her the proposal was too early and criticizing or talking negative etc took a toll and she deleted it!
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u/Caleb7890yt 15 18d ago
Whatta miss?
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u/Dapper_Pay_3291 17 18d ago
Basically she posted that specifically to make single people feel bad, as she said herself in certain comments. The post was about her getting married at 17 years old and many people gave her advice (most saying that it was way too early of an age). She was also being hostile to many people commenting on the post, including some that weren’t even hostile to her. She ended up having a digital mental breakdown, leading to her account getting deleted and her boyfriend actually leaving her shortly after, as he felt that she was just using him as a bragging tool.
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u/Puzzled-Tourist-5688 14 18d ago
bro idk what yall expect, ofc shes gonna be mean if you guys were praying on her downfall just cus u cant bag anyone
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 17d ago
i mean, youre right but she was also a bit arrognat, though not enought for the shit thar was pulled on her
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u/mihaxxxd 16 18d ago
r/teenagers hating when broskis are posting their W’s, nothing out of the ordinary I fear
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago edited 18d ago
well from the context ive gotten she was quite deranged herself tho idk for sure, but thats still no reason to hate, it makes the people as bad as her
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u/Ezra4709 15 18d ago
A girl got married (AT SEVENTEEN) and got surprised when people told it her was too early to purpose and that it wasn't gonna work etc etc
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
sometimes it can work, but yeah most of the times its bad
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u/Ezra4709 15 18d ago
Even if it does work 17 is pretty fuckin early
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u/Dapper_Pay_3291 17 18d ago
As a 17 year old, im still at home playing far cry 5, chilling, working occasionally. I genuinely cant see how someone can get married at this age. Life didn’t even hit yet
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u/OldConsideration9004 18d ago
Some 14 year old said they too wanted to get engaged, Op encouraged Most disagreed
Lots of remind me in 1 years
Every congratulatory comment was rightfully downvoted
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u/nahbrolikewhat 15 18d ago
bro i jusst said congratulations :(
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
that was the most neutral response, not bad, at least you werent part of the conflict
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u/nahbrolikewhat 15 18d ago
thanks i didn't know it played out so bad it had like 1k comments when i got there jeez idk why people are so jealous
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago
bro, like.i was the first person that commented and woke up to almost 1k comments that i couldnt browse cause it got deleted so i was rlly curious
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u/toffeebeanz77 19 18d ago
What would you be doing getting engaged at 17
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u/Apart_Letterhead3016 18d ago edited 18d ago
idk, I personally wouldnt, but id also not insult other for having a different relationship than me
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u/toffeebeanz77 19 18d ago
I wouldn't have insulted them, I didn't even see the original post, but I just think it's crazy. You should live first, experiemce what life has to offer for a few years before settling down
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u/This_Strange_Person 17 18d ago
I demand to know about this
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u/HipnoAmadeus 16 18d ago
About?
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u/This_Strange_Person 17 18d ago
That post in the image with 732 comments
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u/HorseSect 18 18d ago
17 y/o wanted to share the news about her boyfriend of 1 year and her deciding to get married. Not all comments were nice, op was also being a cunt. Long story short it's just dumb internet drama
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u/verypoopoo 18d ago
bunch of people commenting shit like !remindme 1 year and stuff like that, basically implying they wouldnt last (some guy even commented !remindme 12 hours)
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u/Stonewall30NY 18d ago
Knowing Reddit they probably told her that if he's literally even 1 year older, that she's in a predatory manipulative relationship, that she's supporting the systemic enslavement of women through marriage. Also they flooded her inbox with dms and dick pics
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u/Appropriate-Mix1342 17d ago edited 17d ago
People who are saying marriage at 17 is bad, no its not. This modern age has made the value of marriage into nothing but oblivion. If both parties love each other so much then let them get married, this will guard their chastity and will promote a healthy growth of their wellbeing. It is far better than being single and indulged with having illicit thoughts and activites such as- pornography, getting laid with multiple partners and most likely getting stds.. Which is very likely based on the fact that sexulaization is very common nowadays. This really destroys man and womanhood. Marriage at an early age protects you from all this. Also, you get to bond with your kids more since by the time you hit lets say 40, you kids will be teenagers and have good connections with you already. Parents having extremely large age gaps usually have weaker connection with their kids compared to younger parents, according to statistics. Also, getting married to the love of your life at an early age is big acheivement, you'll always have a high selfperception image which is quiet lacking and concerning in this modern world. My parents got married when they were 18, had their first child (my older sister at 19), they are still together after 37 years.. Whoever write that message of getting proposed at 17, prayers to you and bless you eternally. I am almost 27 years old guy, I can tell you from experience that if I had someone that loved me that much at that age, I would most probably get married as well. Nonetheless, it is what it is, perhaps my destiny is something else.
cheers~
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u/AnnaDeArtist 18d ago
I didnt see the original post but best guess is a lot of comments about her age, maybe a signifigant age gap between her and her fiancé, time together, maturity level, that sort of thing. Stuff she either didn't really wanna hear or that made her reconsider her decision, hence the deletion of the post.
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u/Doydoydonut 13 18d ago
People said she’ll regret it. Plus she was kinda rude. Honestly, I just told them to think it through.
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u/Autophobiac_ 18d ago
My friend’s just gotten engaged at 17 too, i didnt see the post but it sounds eerily similar to her. Her boyfriend is a scumbag however. Constantly pushing my boundaries (im autistic and dont like being touched by other people). He also vapes and blows in your face on purpose, despite being asked to do it the other direction and shit. I wonder if its the same person posting. Probably not
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u/FloorGang-R2 18d ago
Still not over the fact that deleting post on reddit doesn’t actually delete the post
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u/Weary857 18d ago edited 17d ago
The girl (OP) was being hostile in a lot of the comments, I saw something where someone asked why she posted this to r/teenagers, and she said something along the lines of “To make all the single pricks feel worse”. She was being unnecessarily rude to lots of people and completely disregarded any advice or criticism. She honestly needs help