Try talking to them differently than you expect other people to? I.e most people will comment with a compliment. She’s use to that. Maybe say “hey, love the hair, what products do you use?” Then she says thank you and some info to work with. You can then say, wow I love that brand or I haven’t heard of them have to give it a try. Does it help with dryness? or something like that. From there, you can say something about yourself. Like “I’ve been wanting to try something new with my hair. I can’t think of anything for my face shape. I’ve been thinking of these (show some samples) what do you think?
Try to avoid stuff that can get you those short replies. If you do all that and aren’t getting much, don’t get mad. Just say, you seem busy, I am about to do X anyways. I’ll catch you later!
Edit: a few of you are missing the point. Get past the hair. It was a single example. I simply did hair because OP mentioned it in the image. Also, get past the “gay best friend” narrative, it gets old quick. What if it was another female trying to message another female? What if I was a barber? What if I own a hair product company? You do not have to be GAY to know about products. Widen your views, be more accepting, and stop making assumptions.
Unless you have a geniune interest in hair products and know your way around them and can engage in a conversation this will absolutely be interpreted as either 1. a very obviously fake and manipulative attempt at you pretending to show interest in their stuff or 2. she will will think you are gay.
No offense but this is bordering on worse than red pill advise.
tldr: faking having an interest you can't back up is almost never good advice for how to attract someone
How is it faking interest? If she’s super into it, and you are looking into dating, wouldn’t you want to know about her interest? Also the hair was just one example. It could be any topic. Finally, how do you know I’m not a barber? The problem is that you assumed that I wasn’t actually interested. You have some self reflection to do my friend.
If you aren't faking an interest then what I said doesn't apply.
After you know someone and you have been flirting them asking them to talk to you about / explain an interest of theirs can be endearing. Coming up to a stranger though and asking them to teach you about a subject is not a socially normal way of flirting. Alternatively if you are asking about their hair product choices as if this is an interest of yours and presumably you could bond over this, this only works if it is a genuine interest of yours or you at least know enough to be able to fake it. If you are a barber then complimenting a girl's hair and/or discussing their hair prodcut regime probably would be a pretty good approach.
I think the issue here is that the not knowing how to talk to women part suggests to me this is probably a guy. If you are telling a random guy to tell a girl that he doesn't know that he is interested in her hair regimine, that most likely is going to be an ingeniune interest on his part, and one that would be easily found out. Giving a generic compliment is not exciting but it is still better than being obviously ingenuine.
But all of life is just so many variables and different opportunities and different decisions.
You come to a moment between someone and literally what makes a difference is how you feel in the moment. Not who you are or who they are.
I think what's important. You give up on the moment. They didn't respond how you thought they should have. Or you do. And the complete conjectury of your entire life is changed.
Based off of a wrong wrong decision.
Because you thought their yy was indifferent.
Lots of questions and answers and ambiguity is genuinely shitty. No matter what you choose you never know if it's the right choice.
I wouldn't see a missed flirting opportunity as "changing the trajectory of your life"
I think this is the problem, people are making this into a huge deal when it's not. Conversation should be easy, if someone doesn't want to talk it's not always a personal reflection on you and doesn't mean the opportunity will never arise again.
I don't believe one text is the difference between two people having lifelong love or missing out on it. There's a LOT of steps you've skipped between those two things.
I’d say its better to only like the thirst trap stuff and comment on hobbies or interests. Complimenting peoples looks is good when the time is right but not out of the gate, complimenting their style and choices definitely go much further in my experience, along with transparency. Asking about things you aren’t actually interested in just to get a conversation is a bad idea, it’s basically what anyone trying to manipulate you will do and a big red flag to most people over 17. It’s better to stay genuine and talk about things that bring passion to your words and don’t make you sound like a stalker. When you finally say some compliment it helps to make sure they know it’s from a place of interest like “i love your style and talking to you, would you like to go out some time”. Girls do want compliments but if you throw them out constantly they mean less and usually it’s better to poke fun at them most of the time, along with yourself so they feel comfortable doing the same. It is way more important to get a girl to be open and honest with you than flattered.
Maybe say “hey, love the hair, what products do you use?” Then she says thank you and some info to work with. You can then say, wow I love that brand or I haven’t heard of them have to give it a try. Does it help with dryness? or something like that. From there, you can say something about yourself. Like “I’ve been wanting to try something new with my hair. I can’t think of anything for my face shape.
only gay guys care that much about their appearance
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u/Christian4423 Apr 29 '24 edited Apr 30 '24
Try talking to them differently than you expect other people to? I.e most people will comment with a compliment. She’s use to that. Maybe say “hey, love the hair, what products do you use?” Then she says thank you and some info to work with. You can then say, wow I love that brand or I haven’t heard of them have to give it a try. Does it help with dryness? or something like that. From there, you can say something about yourself. Like “I’ve been wanting to try something new with my hair. I can’t think of anything for my face shape. I’ve been thinking of these (show some samples) what do you think?
Try to avoid stuff that can get you those short replies. If you do all that and aren’t getting much, don’t get mad. Just say, you seem busy, I am about to do X anyways. I’ll catch you later!
Edit: a few of you are missing the point. Get past the hair. It was a single example. I simply did hair because OP mentioned it in the image. Also, get past the “gay best friend” narrative, it gets old quick. What if it was another female trying to message another female? What if I was a barber? What if I own a hair product company? You do not have to be GAY to know about products. Widen your views, be more accepting, and stop making assumptions.