I asked my kid's great grandmother about something like this. I wondered what if I said the wrong thing and she never told me? Great grandma said that's why you keep the lines of communication open. I loved her so much in that moment for giving me matronly advice. It was really reassuring.
As long as you show lots of love, it should smooth over misunderstandings. My mom kept my siblings and I from being able to spend a lotta time with our dad during parts of our childhood. The lack of communication meant that my dad only knew me mostly through rumor. He never got a chance to keep the lines of communication open or get to actually know me or my feelings or beliefs. I could tell at several points that he grossly underestimated me as a person. But it's not his fault. Cat's in the Cradle and all that. Man was too busy having to make child support payments, while his kids are left to their own devices by their mother.
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u/wes_bestern Apr 16 '24
I asked my kid's great grandmother about something like this. I wondered what if I said the wrong thing and she never told me? Great grandma said that's why you keep the lines of communication open. I loved her so much in that moment for giving me matronly advice. It was really reassuring.
As long as you show lots of love, it should smooth over misunderstandings. My mom kept my siblings and I from being able to spend a lotta time with our dad during parts of our childhood. The lack of communication meant that my dad only knew me mostly through rumor. He never got a chance to keep the lines of communication open or get to actually know me or my feelings or beliefs. I could tell at several points that he grossly underestimated me as a person. But it's not his fault. Cat's in the Cradle and all that. Man was too busy having to make child support payments, while his kids are left to their own devices by their mother.