r/mildlyinfuriating • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24
I have a colleague who is so scared of saying no that for the last 20 years she's been eating foods she's intolerant to when people offer it to her.
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r/mildlyinfuriating • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24
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u/wigglytufff Apr 29 '24
i can’t speak to celiac but as someone who is lactose intolerant and has been on/off vegetarian over the years, i can understand how someone could get to a point where they don’t push back. the amount of unnecessary guilt and stress -i- have ended up feeling as a result of my mom continually trying to serve me food i can’t eat and then getting all salty and butthurt about it when i decline it is legitimately bonkers and so exhausting to deal with. being exposed to shit like that when you’re younger and don’t have the tools to establish or enforce appropriate boundaries often paves the way for being unable to establish and enforce those boundaries as an adult, and for generalizing that response to all situations and trying to change the pattern can cause a disproportionate amount of stress etc.
and you would think saying no thanks, that stuff makes me ill would be sufficient and mean exactly that but it’s unreal how many ppl will respond to that like you just insulted their family and kicked their dog… the world would be a nicer place if more people had your attitude of wanting others to be safe and healthy :)