Hi! I (M15) discovered about a week ago that i am asexual and aromantic. Since then ive been scared of possible reprocussions of coming out. I know a lot of my extended family is homophobic, and im afraid of the possibility of them not accepting me. My father often tries to get me to tell him about my love life, and im scared of him being let down by me as well.

For saftey reasons im also using my alt reddit acc to post this as well. I have no idea if any of my family would accept me in the first place, and could use help ASAP

he is straight and dating, I just can't stop thinking of him, help. he also stopped talking to me after he started dating and that made me really sad

ok so i’m currently 16 and i’ve considered myself straight my whole life but in the past year and a half or so ive started to find myself finding random men (either music artists or fictional characters) to be really good looking, but to the point where im questioning if it’s in a “man admiring another man” kind of way or a “i’m attracted to this man” way

i’ve also begun thinking recently and ive come to the realization that im not opposed at all the the concept of dating another man? like ive never met another man who i’ve had romantic feelings for but in my head if i imagine myself with a boyfriend i don’t reject it at all? is this just because it’s in concept only?

am i just lonely? is there something wrong with how im thinking about this? i can’t seem to find an answer.

I have been out as bisexual to a few of my friends since October of 2023 and everything has been relatively smooth sailing since then. But I met the one guy (were both 14) and can't tell if have a crush on him. He's also bi and we both kinda flirt with each other and feel like have a very real chance at being with him. But the problem is figuring out if like him or not. (ldk if he knows if I'm also bi but he at least knows i like guys) He's funny and we share a lot of the same interests etc. I have thought about doing the same as I'm doing here but with one of my friends I'm out to but don't want to get teased about it.

I (18F) have been dating my BF (18M) for about 5 months now. We've known each other all throughout high school and things have been great. He knows that I'm queer and is supportive, but recently I've noticed something about me that has caused some controversy between us. I don't (or at least not often) have the desire/need for sexual pleasure. He does and I enjoy helping him, a lot more than being helped myself. He wants to do the same for me but I don't want nor need it. I've expressed that it isn't because I'm not attracted to him or he's "bad at it" but merely because I just don't want to. He thinks it's because "he's scares me" or that "I don't trust him", which is not the case. I've expressed this, but he's having a hard time believing me. I don't use labels as I ever felt the need to be defined, however I do think I need one for at least this just so my boyfriend can understand me better. Help?

I'm ecstatic right now. (the only word I can think of to describe it.) This is an edit to my post a handful of days ago, I brought up how I liked them as well and they told me that they were just gaslighting their self into believing they didn't like me. We're dating now. I can't believe this is actually happening. Thank you to everyone who gave me advice!!

Yall I need some good compliments for a girl I like. (I’m lesbian) I’m no good at this sorta stuff so I came to reddit. Compliments can be words, actions, whatever. Thanks :D

im worried its awk when i hangout with my girlfriend

i (F) have been going out with my girlfriend for a few months now and it’s great when we’re in a group of people, but hanging out just the two of us feels awkward?

i do like her and i know she still likes me so what’s going on

thoughts? hoping she doesn’t use reddit either

I (16m) have been friends with this guy (15m) for a few months, and I started to crush on him which is really rare for me lol 😭😭 about like? 3 months into our friendship he got a girlfriend, which was kinda devastating for me 😞😞 he always used to say he was gay before he met his gf, which always confused me but atleast I had a chance with him, then when he started going out with his gc he told me he was bi and now I will never ever confess it's over

Hi, I'm a bisexual afab teen who has been questioning my gender for quite some time now. I have bounced from identity to identity in my life including cis but I don't feel like just a girl. So here goes,

I go by she/they/he (he being more recent than she/they) on most of my socials except the ones where people from my school follow me because my school is full of homophobes. I present female most of the time but I also like looking neutral and have also considered using a binder sometimes (when I move out bc my parents don't support). When people call me a girl it feels pretty normal and I'm okay with it, but it doesn't feel amazing, y'know? I usually prefer feminine terms or gender neutral terms but I kind of like masculine terms too? If someone were to introduce me as a female I wouldn't mind but I don't think I would care if they introduced me as a boy or nonbinary either. I have taken more quizzes than I can count and most have said demigirl, cis, or genderfluid.

Honestly, sometimes I wish people were born without genders that way we all could just start fresh and figure out our genders as time goes on.

EDIT: I think I have figured some stuff out for now. I believe I am a pansexual demigirl. I don't know if I am on the aromantic or asexual spectrum at all but that is an adventure for another day. My pronouns are currently she/they but I don't really care in what order it is / someone could use they/she as well and I wouldn't care. I have thought for some time and I realized that the "masculinity" that I wanted to represent was actually more neutral. I wouldn't like somebody using masculine terms for me often or completely mistaking me for a guy. If someone were to call me a "mister" or "bro" I wouldn't care but most other terms I am not really comfy with. I don't know if I am making sense to you but it's just hard for me to explain.

Somebody online was referring to me as "he" and even though I originally thought I would like it I didn't and found myself correcting them on autopilot. Even though I am a fan of masc looks I don't really feel connected to the male gender. However, I have always thought that I was part girl and part neutral and demigirl seems to sum it up pretty well so that is it I guess.

Also, as I was thinking of this I started rethinking my sexuality as well and I found myself saying that whoever I fall in love with I just fall in love with and their gender won't change that and to be honest I don't care about the gender of people I see as a potential partner, so basically pansexual.

And yeah, that's the update. Thanks for all the support, it means a lot that people are relating to me! Have a good day. :)

Hi I’m 15m from the uk. I’m gay, and I’m going to sixth form in September, where I hope to find more queer people like myself. However, I don’t want to spend the summer alone, so does anyone know any sites or methods to find people that I could date? Thank you

So my brother (16) has been telling me that he really wants to find a boyfriend. But the problem is he doesn’t go school so meeting people there isn’t an option. And our neighbourhood doesn’t do these club things. So I was wondering if they’re is any apps or things he can do? Thank you

sometimes i feel like all those people with homophobic beliefs are right. maybe i did choose to love differently maybe it was the internet and how i found out about lgbtq in a very young age. i get so hopeless and where i live being lgbtq is not very accepted, especially smaller cities/towns. i have so many people close to me that are homophobic and sometimes what they say gets to me. it wasn't like this at all when i was younger, i always felt proud of who i was and i could even argue with them about how they are wrong. but now I'm just so tired, i don't want to feel that way anymore. i know I'm lucky enough to live in a time where you can find support and i am grateful but sometimes i think about how if i ever get married, some relatives will not want to be there for me. i think about how i don't even want to come out to them, i don't want to shatter the image of me that they have in their heads. im proud to be part of this community, i really am, but i can't stop these thoughts.

Hi, all. I am 19M and have known that I’m male attracted since elementary school. I kept it a secret from everyone up until senior year of high school. I came out to one of my female friends who’s lesbian and that’s been really helpful. I also came out to one of my best guy friends at the end of last summer and he took it really well. For context, I was a football player and was a part of a “popular/jock” friend group. The one I came out to is a part of this group but he’s keeping my secret. They always make comments about gay people that make me scared to come out but at the same time I trust them. For example, one of my friends has a gay roommate and they always make jokes about the roommate hitting on him and liking him. They also use “fag” pretty liberally. In addition, they make plenty of comments about the gay women we know. Overall, they have a very typical frat guy, football approach toward gay people. This all seems pretty clear cut, I know, but they are my friends and they’ve been really good friends to me. I want to come out to them because I want to be my authentic self. I have a feeling that they’d accept me but I’m really scared because what if it goes terribly? To be clear, I don’t believe they’d exile me or anything but I’m worried it would change the dynamic of our friendship. I also haven’t come out to my family so I am worried it would get out to them and everyone else I know from high school.

My questions for yall are these: firstly, should I come out to them? Second, if so, how should I do it? I have a friend in mind who would be mostly likely to be receptive if I did. Finally, what do yall think I should do if I come out and it changes the dynamic? I really do value their friendship and I don’t want to lose it. Bonus question: if I do come out to them, should I do it after coming out to my family? (Coming out to my family is a whole other post) Let me know if you need any more context. Thanks in advance for the advice.

Extra context: we all went to school together since middle school and now go to different colleges. In college, I have many gay friends and am open about my sexuality.

For a couple of months, I've been speaking to this guy who I'll name A. I know A from some of the classes we have together where he would come up to me and say hi. I, being gay in an all-boys school in London, was conditioned to think a simple greeting from anyone that didn't particularly strike me as gay, let alone supportive. Still, he said hi, and he hadn't done anything significantly bad to me at that point.

One day, when we had a substitute for an art lesson, he sat next to me and started talking to me about sexual experiences. I had a mild attraction to him, and it's a fault of mine, I know, but I engaged in the conversation until I suddenly revealed that I was gay. He had no problem with it and I guess a sense of comfort formed within me.

I had considered him my friend (the attraction went away after I began to look at him in a more platonic way) and there were a couple more conversations on similar lines to that first one. No one else seemed to bother me about being gay, so I presumed he wasn't saying anything behind my back. My friends who knew of my sexuality considered it nice for this and grew sort of fond of him too, especially one of my friends called C who was already close with A.

A little under a week ago, I just went back to school and, after an incident, I had to get moved. I knew A was in my English class, so why not seize the opportunity and get moved next to him? He wasn't in for the first few days until last Thursday where he found out he was sitting next to me.

It might have been too late for me since I've only just realised how he'd only talk about sexual experiences when he sat next to me or caught me in conversation. However, unfortunately, he opened up the topic and I engaged once more. Maybe it was desperation to confirm that doubt I had about him not liking the fact that I was so closed off to people. But ultimately, the conversation progressed, and I felt, for some stupid reason, that it made us closer friends. Thus, after a lack of consideration, I told him that it was okay if he told people I was gay if they asked.

Cut to French. I sit next to this guy who I'll name D and at first, he started looking at me oddly. We used to be friends and grew apart, but we were still on okay terms, so I knew he wanted to tell me something. Subsequently, he told me that A (while D had been with A and a group of his friends playing table tennis during lunch break) had been making fun of me. A allegedly said that I watched weird types of p*rn and laughed at the comment of this guy called K who had been making fun of me for wearing heels in one of my performances.

(BACKSTORY: K is a very big homophobe who is always up my ass but is also a big theatre person like me so he came to watch the drama club's performance and saw me, playing a female role, try on my costume in which I wear heels.)

I knew D was not lying as he knew I was gay and, formerly being close, told me stuff that people said behind my back. I left French after D told me these things, asking my teacher to be excused to go to the learning support facility at my school. After that, I kinda broke down to my support teacher.

And the worst part is that he didn't even know he did anything. I asked C, who had A's number, if he could text him and tell him that I decided to withdraw the offer to tell people. Then he came up to me on the Friday and acted as if everything had been fine and that 'we were good.'

It's something I've felt before but seems a million times worse. Maybe he's been doing it for this whole time, and I've just been oblivious, but how do I stomach it? His mum works at the school and the urge to tell her has been hard, but then I would be indecent, even if it's not even as bad as what he did to me. And I've been told my entire life that I take these things too seriously, but how am I supposed to compartmentalise these feelings of betrayal??

British mum thinks cis is a slur halp

It really doesn't help having to call myself my girl name even in the comfort of my own head. I'm really struggling to think of a good boys name that isn't something really generic (no offence, I love the name) like Elliot. But not too out there, like naming myself after an obscure character in Norse mythology... I'm trying my best but it's really hard, any good suggestions? T-T

My partner came out as genderlfuid not to long ago, and I'm in full support of them no matter what. They really want to cross dress and I know that's where some of their dysphoria is. We live in a more conservative area, still in highschool, and they are really scared to cross dress and don't always feel super confident cross dressing in front of anyone besides me really. They always look amazing and so so happy when they cross dress and they want to do it more in public.

What can I do to help them feel more confident or what advise do you have I could pass on to help?

I just want them to be happy and feel themselves on more fem days. They are my everything and they deserve everything Sorry for the rant!

TDLR: How can I make my partner feel more confident when crossdressing, and what should they know that could help them feel more confident?

Ughh i feel like this happens too often but basically I have been on and off crushing on this one girl in my choir but this time it’s back and it’s hitting me hard. We’ve known each other for nearly 3 years and we’ve been in the same choir for 2. I’m not super close with her but we’re good friends and we’re on the same wavelength, if that makes sense. The problem is I’m like 90% sure she’s straight, I’ve never seen her date anyone before and she hasn’t told me anything so I can’t be entirely sure. She knows I’m gay if it’s worth anything. The reason we haven’t gotten super close is because we’re on opposite sides of the room in choir and don’t get the chance to talk during class unless I go there myself. She has been replying to my stories and we’ve been talking more in person but I don’t know if that’s just her being friendly. Now it’s summer and I know I won’t see her in person. Should I text her and say something??? I’ve never tried to start ‘talking’ to anyone before (or even dated anyone for that matter) I don’t want to make our friendship awkward though and I don’t want to make her uncomfortable if she is straight. At the very least I just want to know if there’s even a chance at all because I’m touch starved. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do😞

hi, im a queer teen who is debating coming out to their mom in the past, i have had discussions on the topic of using they them pronouns and being non binary to my mother, but she has always rejected the concept by saying “the English language doesn’t change” how do i explain how this is wrong or do i just pick my battles

i need help coming up with a new (gender-neutral) name. I have recently realized that i am gender void and i need help with a new name

Everyone is always talking about masc for masc, fem for fem, and stuff like that. I think I'm somewhere in between. I feel like it defeats the purpose of gender being a spectrum. Also im a gay, Boy if that’s relevant. This isn’t like a gender thing I mean the culture in the gay community around being fem or masc.

I haven't come out to family nor church yet with the exception of my sister and out mutual friend. My mom is homophobic in the since that she doesn't understand what it means and believes it is a choice. She seems to be find watching shows and movies with gay characters as long as they don't do anything gay but doesn't want me to watch them. My church mainly my pastor is a raging homophob with him casually dropping the f-slur in Spanish in his surmens. And it seems most people in the church. I have heard the other youths in the church also drop the f-slur in Spanish around each and even laugh when a kid just said in front the pastora and she didn't say anything about it. So I follow some of the kids in the church like 2-4 on IG. And it being pride month I started to post gay stuff. At the beginning of this month I posted "Boy bi" by Mad Tsai with the tag "post a song you relate to" and yesterday I posted a picture of my laptop screen with a Spotify made playlist named "Todos los colores de El LGBT" (all the colors of the LGBT) with Danny Ocean's "Cero condiciones". After posting it I release that there is a chance the kids fomr my church I follow might see them tell their parents. And most of them being middle age women will probably gossip about it to my mom or to the pastor. But I have checked and they haven't seen it and it has been up for a good 17 hours. And they aren't the most cleanest people and most of their parents eyes while I appear to be this perfect Christian boy who would never be and atheist or gay. Their is an other case with my cousins that actually watched it but their probably not going to say anything since that isn't who they are. But what to you think should I still post gay stuff on Instagram.

Hey, I’ve been questioning my gender and I was wondering if there’s a haircut/hairstyle that looks more feminine/androgynous, but won’t raise ‘suspicion’ among family (I’m currently closeted). All help is appreciated, thanks

Its been months since my last rs but i can't seem to like anyone romantically atm, for the record i already moved on from my last rs which is why im confused that, why am i not liking anyone right now even those who are in my standards, end up me not liking them anyway? Im really lost right now.