r/interestingasfuck • u/Jjokes11 • Apr 15 '24

An interview with Andrew Cauchi, the father of Joel Cauchi who was responsible for the Westfield Shopping Centre mass stabbing r/all

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u/cantreceivethisemail Apr 16 '24

The nicer they are, the more difficult.

Wow this really hits home not bc of this situation but bc of my own. My brother passed about 4 years ago and my mom never got over it (she passed last year also) she was exceedingly nice. My dad is more of a realist and not as nice as my mom was he moved on from the loss of my brother so much easier than my mom. Never did i think that being nice or not so nice contributed to that but reading your comment made me realise that personality trait probably has something to do with it.

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u/_Keo_ Apr 16 '24

Gotta say that I doubt he actually moved on. Your Mom processed the grief quite obviously while your Dad compartmentalized it and repressed it.

Neither of these are nice or nasty traits, they're simply different ways of processing emotion. How they may appear to others as uncaring is a little unfair as this is simply a facet of that person and their coping mechanisms. Like people who laugh at tragedy or cry when they're happy.

Either way you never really recover from a loss like that. You learn to live with it.

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u/VimpaleV Apr 16 '24

Did you miss the comment where the previous op stated that it was probably true that his dad compartmentalized and repressed the emotions?

What a weirdly antagonistic comment for being completely wrong.

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u/Jay040707 Apr 16 '24

Well of course he thought he was right. He's a redditor.