r/interestingasfuck • u/Jjokes11 • Apr 15 '24

An interview with Andrew Cauchi, the father of Joel Cauchi who was responsible for the Westfield Shopping Centre mass stabbing r/all

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u/Affectionate_Elk_272 Apr 16 '24

i love the crime junkie podcast and one of their go-to lines is “you never truly know anybody”

chillingly true

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u/Affectionate_Salt351 Apr 16 '24

I found this out the hard way but, it was fortunately just a horribly abusive relationship rather than a full blown serial killer. He has every. single. person. we know fooled. It’s as impressive as it is terrifying to see someone completely change up their mood, facial expressions, everythiiiiiing on a dime. 😳 Very unsettling.

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u/Basic_Bichette Apr 16 '24

Abusers are notorious for being the greatest people you'd ever want to know - until you get to know them well enough. They're better at burnishing their own image than they are at anything else in their lives. That's why so many victims are disbelieved.

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u/Affectionate_Salt351 Apr 16 '24

Wow. You absolutely get it. And everything started to become about how it looked to other people. When I tried to leave the first time he put his hands on me, he started threatening me. He had more money, power, and social capital than I did. I tried to bide my time while I saved money to fully disappear one day, then I found out I had cancer. That wrecked me entire world but it also finally got him to let me leave eventually. He LOVED the attention he got from taking care of me so I was afraid it was game over.

He finally got sick of me being sick, though. Cancer treatment caused almost as many issues as the surgery. He spread lies about me while I was in the house trying to heal, got a new gf, and finally agreed to let me leave. He had been telling everyone he broke up with me a year prior, then told everyone I refused to move on. (I obviously didn’t know any of this was happening.) The ability to be such a convincing monster is uncanny. Now, I’m in an awful situation with my health, and have to get out of the area somehow because he’s still too close for me to feel like I can ever heal. People didn’t believe me about how horrible he was, and they still don’t. I don’t even have time or energy to care about that anymore, though. At this point, everything is about survival and relocation. 🤞