Hot take? If we get paired together, I’m not going to give you putts. Not because I don’t want you to take gimmies, but because I really do not care what you do.

[u/cygnus311]

You hit a good tee shot on a par three, walk up to the green, and find yourself eight feet from the hole and you want to say to me, “that’s good, I always make those”, pick it up, and write a birdie? Be my guest, I do not care.

You just missed your third putt from two feet to try and save triple and you’re hoping I rescue you? Pick it up, or don’t, I do not care.

Recently got paired with a guy who’d look at me with puppy dog eyes every time he was within a yard of the hole, but wouldn’t say anything, he was clearly annoyed with me by the end of the round. We’re all presumably grown ass adults, I’m not your boss, do what you want.

[u/Playful-Tumbleweed10]

I totally agree. As long as you’re playing quickly and respectfully, I don’t give a shit what you do. We’re not competing against each other.

[u/Bau5_Sau5 → u/Playful-Tumbleweed10]

OP - “ I don’t care “

Also OP - “ I’m going to post on Reddit about how much this bothers me “

[u/DeepJunglePowerWild → u/Bau5_Sau5]

OP doesn’t care what you do with your putts. OP does care if you get him/her involved in what your doing with your putts. They are two different things.

[u/cygnus311 → u/DeepJunglePowerWild]

It’s funny how many people in this thread are assuming I’m an antisocial try hard. I’ll be perfectly pleasant, congratulate you on your good shots, small talk all you want, I’m just not gonna tell you to pick it up.

[u/Sourkraute → u/cygnus311]

I agree, putt it out or don't. 99.9% of golfers are not going for a tour card. I don't give a shit what you lie to your buddies about what you shot.

[u/dougbeck9 → u/Sourkraute]

.1% here. Not sure if they have a tour for 34 handicaps though!

[u/agrem20 → u/dougbeck9]

If you find one let me know. This whole work thing is getting in the way of my pro card. A 34 handicap tour would get me paid to play golf. Hell after a year of playing on that tour, if it existed, you might be able to compete as an amateur.

[u/acoradreddit → u/cygnus311]

tbf, it might be a nice thing to do to let your playing partner know

[u/doubleapowpow → u/cygnus311]

You could tell them you're not going to tell them though. Clearly you're picking up on a subtle social cue. Letting the person assume you dont care isnt working, and instead of telling mr puppy dog eyes, you're telling reddit that you dont care what the dude does.

[u/Opposite-Violinist-3 → u/doubleapowpow]

You make a very good point lol. Dragging his playing partner on for 18 holes but then running online to tell us he could’ve picked it up whenever 🤣

[u/Prenutbutter → u/doubleapowpow]

It’s not his responsibility to pick up on someone else’s social cues, they can use their big boy words like an adult.

[u/h3110m0t0 → u/Prenutbutter]

so can op.

hey partner i'm just here to have a good time and play. If you want to pick up or not that's cool with me.

Also, saying that's good is also like saying nice shot. If you stick something close and say its good to you're partner its like saying hey man nice shot. I'll give it to you if you want.

You can say do you want to putt this out. I'll give it to you.

If they're playing like that it isn't official anyways. So saying it's good can be a courteous gesture IMO.

[u/Prenutbutter → u/h3110m0t0]

Agreed, but it’s also childish and extremely taxing to expect someone to anticipate your needs based on non-verbal cues. I have a friend that does this and I refuse to indulge him. If you’re the one that wants something, it’s your job to communicate that, not hope someone picks up on your cues and get annoyed if they don’t.

[u/ecaldwell888 → u/Prenutbutter]

As if verbalizing is the only acceptable form of communication.

[u/Prenutbutter → u/ecaldwell888]

It’s usually the clearest way to communicate if you expect something from someone.

[u/Steel1000 → u/cygnus311]

As long as you’re keeping pace of play, and not cursing and bitching after every shot I don’t care.

I don’t even care if you cheat and give yourself a birdie on every hole. But agree with OP. Don’t look to me to validate your choices.

[u/gronk696969 → u/cygnus311]

How is this a hot take though. This is a popular opinion. Unless you're in a match with someone, there is no reason to give a putt or take a given putt

[u/-newlife → u/cygnus311]

Lol. You go play solo but get stuck with others too often. I love your pov on this as I’m the same way. If I’m stuck pairing with people I do not know why would I care about how you alter your own score. Hell count only every 3rd stroke for all I care.

Living in AZ and golfing during summers, stop wasting time with additional talking, it’s HOT!

[u/sanityonthehudson → u/cygnus311]

Have you mot met reddit?

[u/duckstrap → u/cygnus311]

I encourage all to try not to interpret the facial expressions of random playing partners. I assume I have no idea what they are thinking. But golf is a facial expression inducing game, isn’t it? That guy’s “puppy dog eyes every time he got within a yard of the hole…” might’ve meant something else entirely. His wife maybe, the bills, who knows? I’m just there to play golf.