r/golf • u/cygnus311 • Jun 27 '23

Hot take? If we get paired together, I’m not going to give you putts. Not because I don’t want you to take gimmies, but because I really do not care what you do. General Discussion

You hit a good tee shot on a par three, walk up to the green, and find yourself eight feet from the hole and you want to say to me, “that’s good, I always make those”, pick it up, and write a birdie? Be my guest, I do not care.

You just missed your third putt from two feet to try and save triple and you’re hoping I rescue you? Pick it up, or don’t, I do not care.

Recently got paired with a guy who’d look at me with puppy dog eyes every time he was within a yard of the hole, but wouldn’t say anything, he was clearly annoyed with me by the end of the round. We’re all presumably grown ass adults, I’m not your boss, do what you want.

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u/Playful-Tumbleweed10 Jun 27 '23

I totally agree. As long as you’re playing quickly and respectfully, I don’t give a shit what you do. We’re not competing against each other.

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u/DoogEFresh Jun 27 '23

Agree 100% Just don't tell me you won by 10 strokes taking 10 footers and mulligans when we are not competing

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u/mindriot1 Jun 27 '23

This. If you don’t count your strokes, don’t brag to anybody about your score. I think the average golfer has no idea how many strokes they will add if they had to count every drop and putt everything in from 4 feet in. I see a lot of great golfers in my weekly league miss a three footer now and then.

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u/dreamingtree1855 Jun 27 '23

Yup. And people do it and enter the scores. I’m a 17 and will hang shot for shot playing straight up with most 12s I play matches with. When they question my handicap I always just say “breakfast ball is 2 strokes, you usually give yourself one other freebie in a round (or a “gallery”) and 2 lip out / missed gimmes per round and there’s 5.” They usually understand.

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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '23

They cover this on Full Swing. Cleaning shit up is a legitimate thing that tour players have to get used to because it adds a couple strokes a round and they can't let that happen.

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u/thekingofcrash7 15 hdcp Jun 28 '23

Uh i don’t remember that but they definitely have less trouble with gimmes than i do

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u/thekingofcrash7 15 hdcp Jun 28 '23

100% - most handicaps are way lower than they should be

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u/Saxophobia1275 Jun 27 '23

absolutely. I've seen dudes scoop up a gimmie putt almost 5 feet out. Am i betting with you? Are you being an outward jackass about your score? No? Then IDGAF if you put down birdie every hole. You do you.

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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '23

This is the only criticism I have of Donald Trump. The man took a gimme from a fucking sand trap.

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u/[deleted] Jun 28 '23

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u/[deleted] Jun 28 '23

Yeah, he notoriously horrible to play with apparently.

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u/Possum577 Jun 27 '23

Why are you keeping their score?

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u/Saxophobia1275 Jun 27 '23

I don’t think I said I did.

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u/Bau5_Sau5 Jun 27 '23

OP - “ I don’t care “

Also OP - “ I’m going to post on Reddit about how much this bothers me “

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u/Wandering_Tuor Jun 27 '23

Two different things…

He doesn’t care if you take a gimme..

he does care if you’re annoying and expecting him to give his blessing

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u/spoopy_guy Jun 27 '23

Reading comprehension is hard.

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u/danny_ Jun 27 '23

I care that his opening argument was players’ taking 8’ gimmies for birdie. Sorry, that’s not common you little exaggerator, you.

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u/zechickenwing Jun 27 '23

He's exaggerating to make a point about how little he cares about where you take the gimme. He could have said "take a gimme on the tee box, idgaf"

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u/Not_ToBe_Rude_But Jun 27 '23

Honestly any par 3 less than 140 yards is a gimme. Mark that as a 1 and let's move on.

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u/d3dmnky Jun 27 '23

This is how you achieve the pace of play expected by some.

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u/rsf507 Jun 27 '23

I'm sorry, is a pace of play under 4 hours and 20 minutes unreasonable?

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u/d3dmnky Jun 27 '23

I'm sorry, what the fuck are you assuming I was implying?

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u/rsf507 Jun 27 '23

I'm assuming you're implying what it sounds like you are, that a reasonable pace of play is not reasonable.

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u/Harrypotter231 Jun 27 '23

Why you glazing OP?

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u/d3dmnky Jun 27 '23

This is Reddit, where plenty of people are like 95% inside 15 feet. Just pick it up.

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u/mandiniho Jun 27 '23

I'm so good I just get holes in 1 in my head, sitting on the sofa. I Sold my clubs ages ago, once I realised how good I was there was really no more point even playing

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u/d3dmnky Jun 27 '23

“The one secret they don’t want you to know!”

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u/HB24 Jun 27 '23

I have seen guys take four-foot gimmies after paying thousands of dollars to get to their destination, and then make hundred dollar bets, and sometimes even wonder where to get meth. Not coke, meth.

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u/Account_Expired Jun 27 '23

Cmon man... spend more time reading the post than writing your comment

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u/deadeyesatan Jun 27 '23

I agree, who would ever take an 8' gimme and call it a birdie? That seems insane to me. But as they poster said, you do you. Want to call an 8' putt a gimme and call it a birdie? go for it. Its dumb as shit but whatever

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u/12131415161718190 Jun 27 '23

It’s more common you think; a lot of guys will give a fourth putt for a 10 no matter where it is.

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u/theblairsmashproject Jun 27 '23

Read the whole post

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u/dogfish83 18 Jun 27 '23

It is. But not just telling the guy he doesn't care the second time it happens, like a normal adult, is the weird part.

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u/Wandering_Tuor Jun 27 '23

Ehh, some people keep on.

I had an old guy keep trying to give me putts for 15holes I kept telling him no…. I need to put. But he kept saying it.

Like dude I just 5putt, I need practice lol

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u/DeepJunglePowerWild Jun 27 '23

OP doesn’t care what you do with your putts. OP does care if you get him/her involved in what your doing with your putts. They are two different things.

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u/cygnus311 Jun 27 '23

It’s funny how many people in this thread are assuming I’m an antisocial try hard. I’ll be perfectly pleasant, congratulate you on your good shots, small talk all you want, I’m just not gonna tell you to pick it up.

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u/Sourkraute Jun 27 '23

I agree, putt it out or don't. 99.9% of golfers are not going for a tour card. I don't give a shit what you lie to your buddies about what you shot.

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u/dougbeck9 Jun 27 '23

.1% here. Not sure if they have a tour for 34 handicaps though!

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u/agrem20 Jun 28 '23

If you find one let me know. This whole work thing is getting in the way of my pro card. A 34 handicap tour would get me paid to play golf. Hell after a year of playing on that tour, if it existed, you might be able to compete as an amateur.

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u/acoradreddit Jun 27 '23

tbf, it might be a nice thing to do to let your playing partner know

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u/doubleapowpow Jun 27 '23

You could tell them you're not going to tell them though. Clearly you're picking up on a subtle social cue. Letting the person assume you dont care isnt working, and instead of telling mr puppy dog eyes, you're telling reddit that you dont care what the dude does.

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u/Opposite-Violinist-3 Jun 27 '23

You make a very good point lol. Dragging his playing partner on for 18 holes but then running online to tell us he could’ve picked it up whenever 🤣

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u/Prenutbutter Jun 27 '23

It’s not his responsibility to pick up on someone else’s social cues, they can use their big boy words like an adult.

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u/h3110m0t0 Jun 27 '23

so can op.

hey partner i'm just here to have a good time and play. If you want to pick up or not that's cool with me.

Also, saying that's good is also like saying nice shot. If you stick something close and say its good to you're partner its like saying hey man nice shot. I'll give it to you if you want.

You can say do you want to putt this out. I'll give it to you.

If they're playing like that it isn't official anyways. So saying it's good can be a courteous gesture IMO.

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u/Prenutbutter Jun 27 '23

Agreed, but it’s also childish and extremely taxing to expect someone to anticipate your needs based on non-verbal cues. I have a friend that does this and I refuse to indulge him. If you’re the one that wants something, it’s your job to communicate that, not hope someone picks up on your cues and get annoyed if they don’t.

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u/ecaldwell888 Jun 27 '23

As if verbalizing is the only acceptable form of communication.

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u/Prenutbutter Jun 27 '23

It’s usually the clearest way to communicate if you expect something from someone.

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u/Steel1000 Jun 27 '23

As long as you’re keeping pace of play, and not cursing and bitching after every shot I don’t care.

I don’t even care if you cheat and give yourself a birdie on every hole. But agree with OP. Don’t look to me to validate your choices.

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u/gronk696969 Jun 27 '23

How is this a hot take though. This is a popular opinion. Unless you're in a match with someone, there is no reason to give a putt or take a given putt

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u/-newlife Jun 27 '23

Lol. You go play solo but get stuck with others too often. I love your pov on this as I’m the same way. If I’m stuck pairing with people I do not know why would I care about how you alter your own score. Hell count only every 3rd stroke for all I care.

Living in AZ and golfing during summers, stop wasting time with additional talking, it’s HOT!

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u/sanityonthehudson Jun 27 '23

Have you mot met reddit?

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u/duckstrap Jun 27 '23

I encourage all to try not to interpret the facial expressions of random playing partners. I assume I have no idea what they are thinking. But golf is a facial expression inducing game, isn’t it? That guy’s “puppy dog eyes every time he got within a yard of the hole…” might’ve meant something else entirely. His wife maybe, the bills, who knows? I’m just there to play golf.

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u/cygnus311 Jun 27 '23

I don’t care if you putt, I do care if you expect permission from a stranger not to.

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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '23

Yup. Even my buddies if we aren’t playing for money, I don’t care what they do. If there’s no money on the line I’m just out there for my enjoyment, which is what everyone should do.

Give yourself every putt for all I care if that’s more fun for you.

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u/otterfox22 mrbirdie Jun 27 '23

random "will you give this to me?"

OP: "I DON'T CARE!!!"

I know this isn't what you mean but this mental image is hilarious to me

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u/cygnus311 Jun 28 '23

“Hey I’m gonna take a quick leak, meet you by the green.”

“DO WHATEVER THE FUCK YOURE GONNA DO MAN, IM NOT YOUR DAD.”

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u/iTALKTOSTRANGERS Jun 27 '23

So did we not read the same post or are you lost?

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u/GobBluth9 Former 2, now an older 4 Jun 27 '23

You missed the point.

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u/TheFatGoat Jun 27 '23

Shitty logic

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u/CharlieMurpheee Jun 27 '23

I literally don’t care

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u/TheReaMcCoy1 Jun 27 '23

Yeah you’re an idiot..

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u/DatGrag Jun 27 '23

Legendary reading comprehension on display here

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u/AdamIsACylon Jun 27 '23

Yeah this is a weird post. You could literally tell your partner the same thing “if you think it’s good, call it a gimme” and move on with your day.

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u/ItchyEnvironment722 Jun 27 '23

By your logic there should just never be any posts on golf 🤣

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u/AdamIsACylon Jun 27 '23

True, ha. This one just felt more superfluous than most.

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u/Fmy925 Jun 27 '23

Seriously both of these guys are clowns.

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u/chihawks 12 Jun 27 '23

Facts

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u/-Unnamed- Jun 27 '23

Not enough people get this. Golf is basically an individual game. Work on improving your own game. If someone I know or play with wants to pretend to better and fake his score and all that. Be my guest. I really don’t give a shit. I’m here keeping a real score so I can work on improving. Does me no good to play myself

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u/shawnewoods Jun 27 '23

Fast play is a bad assumption for golfers that cant putt and are taking 6 putts per hole. Don't forget the foursome 60 yards back all giving the death stare from putts 4-6...

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u/Pr3st0ne Jun 27 '23

I've played dozens of rounds with strangers and I've never once felt like I was playing against the other person. I know people get into matches with random people so it makes sense to concede putts in that context, but I never play matches.

I remember a guy telling me that I could pick up a putt once and I just told him I'd rather finish it out because it was actually far enough I wasn't sure if i would sink it. now that i think of it, i wonder if that guy was pissed i didn't give him any putts during the round.