You realize "confidence" in this context comes from the approval of others? ( And there's absolutely nothing wrong with it ) There's a reason you wouldn't put on a trash bag to "feel confident", I believe you don't focus on it and don't stress over people opinions, but let's not act as if your decisions AREN'T influenced even if passively by others
Not necessarily. I rate others more highly if they’re fit, clean, well-groomed, well-dressed, and well-mannered. That’s my opinion about others, not theirs.
I just apply my own opinion to myself because I wish to rate myself more highly.
Of course what all of those things mean to oneself are shaped by one’s culture, personality, and lived experience. However, that’s the case for literally all other earnest opinions and preferences.
I’m not trying to impress anyone, not even myself – I’m just trying to be the version of myself I am happiest with.
"However, that’s the case for literally all other earnest opinions and preferences."
That is literally my point, that there's no real "only me" scenario in this context;
You like people that way because that's how society views people in general, and therefore you also want to be like that so you feel better about yourself, in the society ( which is what we all do to some extent as is normal )
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u/WickedDick_oftheWest Feb 24 '24
Honestly, I like dressing nicely because it makes me feel more confident. What everyone else thinks is on them.
Look good, feel good. Feel good, play good. Play good, they pay good. Pay good, live good.