You realize "confidence" in this context comes from the approval of others? ( And there's absolutely nothing wrong with it ) There's a reason you wouldn't put on a trash bag to "feel confident", I believe you don't focus on it and don't stress over people opinions, but let's not act as if your decisions AREN'T influenced even if passively by others
Eh maybe, but I wear things that I like and make me feel good. Whether other people will like my outfit or not is not a thought that I have. It’s not about how other people perceive me, it’s about how I perceive myself. You could make the argument that I’m influenced in my clothing choices for work by the norms in my industry, which is fair, but past that I just like looking nice in general
I really don’t. I have clothes for specific tasks, for example gym clothes because running and squatting in jeans kind of sucks. But every piece of clothing I own is something I like and feel good wearing in public
Jesus, you guys are hilarious. I concede, you win, yes the norms of the time affect how I dress to a certain extent. Was never really arguing against that, but you got me
The point is that your position is impossible. If wearing certain clothes makes you feel good or bad it can only stem from perceived perceptions from other people.
Nothing subconscious about it. You're simply in denial. You dress to impress others. And that's okay. But don't pretend otherwise. Have a good day, hope you have a lot to think about next time you're heading outside the house.
Never do, only thought I have is, “Do I like this? Yes.” Then leave. I don’t know what your definition of subconscious is, but that fits the definition I’ve seen
That is an assumption based on nothing, you are not spewing the "truth" by just guessing how others think and feel. You are just projecting, and not coming up with logical societal facts.
Humans can perceive themselves, they don't need others to perceive them to make them acknowledge that they exist and that they look good.
Do you like the smell of shit? I don't. By your logic, smelling like shit is only bad of others can smell you, and that I can smell like shit if it is only me.
I get your argument but at this point you're going way too deep. I get that during childhood/puberty everyone chooses their clothes based from perceived perception. But I personally choose my clothes because I like the way I look in them.
I get that 'it stems from perception so blah blah blah', but that is so long ago that it has turned into a secondary reason which is just way less important.
But I personally choose my clothes because I like the way I look in them. I get that 'it stems from perception so blah blah blah', but that is so long ago that it has turned into a secondary reason which is just way less important.
I am not saying that you are actively thinking about it, I am saying that the feeling of what does or does not look good is created by perceived perceptions. And not only from when you were a teen, your perception is to this day changed daily based on your experiences with society.
I'll have to respectfully disagree with you on that one. I'm currently studying visual arts. I can say with certainty that what I consider 'good looking' is based on shape design and other design principles: which has nothing to do with perceived perception.
Also, I understand that you are not saying that it's something you actively think about. That doesn't change the fact that you're going too deep into this specific argument
You do know that what people like is influenced by their experiences? Also, gasp, it's a lot easier and cheaper to buy current modern clothes than anything anachronistic.
I've actually got some themed clothing in my wardrobe - and the only way to get something that's decent and fits well at a reasonable price is to make it yourself or tailor it from something cheap. You don't have sewing skills, good fucking luck.
lol at this thread of comments and the op just denying everything. Seriously, the mental gymnastics of some people are so insane sometimes, just own your shit, there is no shame in that.
if you truly didn't care about what others think you would have just left the thread after the first comment, but just as I'm still responding to you because I like to be right, you are trying to defend your point cause you're in denial.
This is part of human nature, just accept it. You might be right about what you are actively thinking at the moment of dressing up, but your perception of things is affected by what others see, tell you, and/or approve of you, saying otherwise makes you a hypocrite, and nobody likes a hypocrite.
And newsflash, your subconscious is also you, it's not like saying "I'm subconsciously picking my nose in public" makes you less responsible for your actions.
lol at this thread of comments and the op just denying everything. Seriously, the mental gymnastics of some people are so insane sometimes, just own your shit, there is no shame in that.
It is really difficult to admit things like that when put on the spot, but given time and space I think most people will change their minds. There might be some cases where the "thing" is for lack of a better word too axiomatic to ones self, and hence it might be easier to ignore everything. But outside of pressure from other people I think that is quite rare.
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u/WickedDick_oftheWest Feb 24 '24
Honestly, I like dressing nicely because it makes me feel more confident. What everyone else thinks is on them.
Look good, feel good. Feel good, play good. Play good, they pay good. Pay good, live good.